Worried about my DD lying to CAMHS

[Littlek0406]

My DD 13 has got a Zoom meeting with CAMHS tomorrow, she’s pathological liar already convinced the GP & YPAS, that there nothing wrong with her although she self harm’s, depressed & tells me that she wants to die!

I just want what’s best for her, whether that be medication, I just don’t know what’s best for her

Things have change since my DS was with CAMHS. I was involved with every meeting, even if I did not speak. Is there any way you can contact them and ask to give feedback after the zoom?

Firstly thank you for message @Unreasonabubble

I’m just so worried about her & what’s she’s going to said to them, she had the GP & YPAS wrapped around her little finger

Can you ask for the first 10 min of the call to be with you alone so you can give them some background? Or just turn up? Totally legit in her age.

Are you seeing a psychiatrist?

She’s sees a counsellor.
Thanks for your advice @dragonsben

Dd13 was under camhs, she is adamant she has a mental health condition or illness. Assessed by psychiatrist after self harming and suicide attempt. She isn't mentally ill, apparently its her home life. She told them her dad hit her, totally untrue. Referred to social work. Things going great, then she makes another suicide attempt, Camhs discharged her saying she needs to learn to deal with mistakes she makes as a teen in a different way instead of resorting to self harm etc. Referred again back to social work. Police at door two nights ago after her speaking to childline and they were asked to do a welfare check.She was a great kid until she neared 13, never had to discipline her, very laid back, great role model at primary school etc. She has nice friends and a couple of others who we don't approve of due to finding out about drinking, vaping etc so have stopped her socialising with them outwith school and are blocked on her phone. We are on eggshells constantly, trying to avoid confrontation incase she harms herself. Her mood changes from day to day or hour to hour. Concerned that even when her mood is great she has tried to take her life but seeks help, so don't know if it's all attention seeking. She has been saying for last week everyday she will take her life, doesn't know why just that she doesn't see point in living, growing up and getting job, house etc and isn't upset or crying either about it or the impact her taking her life would have on her family and friends. Absolutely burnt out, have two younger dds to think about and I lost my mum suddenly in July but she doesn't care about the impact of her lies and behaviour on anyone else.

Hi,
Is it a course of group CBT that she’s been offered? If she’s at this point, I would think that they are seeing past her denials. Any offer of help with CAMHS is only for young people that they are very concerned about at the moment because they are so overwhelmed.
You should also have been offered a one to one session before the group sessions where a parent is invited to join. (Again on Teams/Zoom). This is an opportunity to discuss your concerns so that they have a full picture of what’s going on.
There will also be an email address where you can email her practitioner and a crisis phone number that you can call should you be concerned enough about her during her treatment time. They discharge quickly so this is the time to make the most of the help being offered.
You should also be offered another one to one which you can join in on before discharge.
Hope she’s ok OP.

If it’s a preliminary assessment call then you should absolutely sit in on this too. They’ll recognise warning signs and listen to you as well as your DD.
It’s a good idea to write down all of your concerns and her behaviour patterns beforehand so you cover everything.

An update sorry so it’s late, me & DD a zoom meeting with CAMHS for an hour it was the initial assessment & she didn’t lie thank god!

We had really good chat about everything that DD been going thorough.
She’s been referred for Autism assessment & Self-harming workshop plus waiting for a caseworker on very long list but I feel like it’s given me & DD some hope!

Thank you from the bottom of my heart @dragonsben @MummyJ12 @Lostsoul02 @Unreasonabubble

@Lostsoul02 I don’t even know what to say, I hope it gets better you & all of your family Xx

Oh my goodness, I cannot even begin to explain what your message means. I am SOOOOOOOOOOOO delighted for you and your DD.

Children that have to be referred to CAHMS do have reason to be. My DS tried to hang himself. I know what good work they can do if you do get access to them.

I’m so pleased to read your update @Littlek0406 I hope that your dd doesn’t have to wait too long to get the help that she clearly needs. Wishing you both all the best

@Unreasonabubble bloody hell is your DS alright now & know it’s long process. Can’t imagine seeing that it must have been heartbreaking, so sorry

@MummyJ12 it’s just such relief, that someone listened to us & agreed with me

Thank you all soooo much plus DD started in a new school today, onwards & upwards xxx

@Littlek0406. He is doing very well, lives on his own, has friends etc so battling for him for CAHMS and specialist school was the best thing I ever did. Good luck to your DD and you.