Teenage son out of control

[Fritton0505]

I need some help and advice in regards to my 13 year old son as I don't know what to do.
We recently moved to a new area and a new school and at first everything was fine until he met a new group of friends.
His behaviour over the last 5 months has deteriorated. He and his group of friends (about 5 in total) seem to be acting as a group. They regularly truant from school, walk out of lessons, set the fire alarms off. No interest in anything except going out at night. They frequently come home late so we resort to looking for them but they have found somewhere to hide.
Last weekend was the worst night ever. He was given a time of 10pm to come in but didn't come home. We searched for him as he didn't answer phone and eventually reported him missing to the police. Finally at 3am he walked in the door with the reason that he only came home because he was cold, wet and hungry No remorse or apology. He has now been grounded for 2 weeks with phone and xbox taken away.
Returned to school this morning after an exclusion for truanting only to do it sgain
School are supportive but he doesn't care about anything.
I am worried about where thus behavior will end.
Any help or advice would be great

This must be very worrying and exhausting for you. Have you spoken to your DS about why he’s acting this way? In my mind, it seems like he’s very unhappy and wants to get your attention and to cause you worry, because he’s hurting. Was the move very far and was he okay with it? Did he lose some good friends during the move? Does he understand the consequences of staying out late, going missing and truanting from school?
10pm seems like a very late curfew for a 13 year old. I would be considering moving him to another school to see if he could be moved away from this new circle of friends, but that’s definitely a conversation you should have with him. Also approach the school for help to see how they could assist.
Shouting and getting angry won’t get you anywhere. If you come across as calm and concerned, you’ll probably get more out of him. Explain what steps you’ll have to take if he continues to walk out of school and not come home on time, so that he understands what will happen. He seems to be trying to control what he can in his life, so you could also discuss ways to give him more say, but within reasonable boundaries. Good luck. I hope you manage to find a solution that works!

Why are you letting him go out at night?
Change school?

A 13 yr old should not have a curfew of 10pm!

You must be out of your mind with worry, you poor thing. I have a 13 year old and I'm sure he thinks that's he could live independently but obviously they don't.

Is he angry at you for the move ? I think I would try to level with him about why he is acting this way. My son would eventually have an honest conversation with me about what he's upset about, and you can go from there. You can't let this slide you will have to try and get him to communicate with you.

A 13 shouldn't be allowed out that late in the first place!!!