Last Night ....

[Worthingmumofone]

So my ds is off to uni tomorrow , its a 5 hour drive so im probably only going to see him now in the holidays. Its just been me and him for the last 10 years and to be honest im feeling a bit lost. Making sure i dont let on as he is beyond excited to be going , just seeing all his stuff piled up in the hallway today and his room stripped bare it's just sinking in when i come home in a few days its just going to be me on my own i mean my house will finally stay clean , toilet seat will remain down and my food bill will drop massively but will miss him terribly.

Oh no, poor you OP. I have another 17 years before it's my turn for this. I can only imagine how it feels.

I hope you have planned some enriching things for your own life OP. If not, tomorrow is the time to do that. Time to focus on you for a bit, even though I know your nature is to look after your boy first and you've done that his whole life. But now is the time in life for you, your dreams and wishes for you, as well as for him.

In the meantime...Try to focus in the positives - you've raised an amazing young man who's off to university! He sounds like a great young person. Well done you! He's soon to be a fully independent young adult, which is our job as parents to raise.

Organise something fun with a friend for tomorrow. Give yourself a break and know that's it's ok to feel sad
for a while. You will always be his mum and he will always know you're there for him. Xxxxx

Can totally sympathise OP. DS should be off next year and I have a small sense of excitement for him moving onto his next stage but also know that I'm going to miss him terribly.

I still had DH and DC2 here but when DC1 went off to University I was soooo sad.
But in a way I was heartened that I felt that way somehow, and it wasn’t like I couldn’t wait to see the back of him.
The first few weeks were hard, shall I text and ask how he is or leave him be? But it gets better with each week.

I’m so sorry that you’re sad. But youve really done so well to raise a son independently who’s excited to go away. Well done - seriously! I hope after the pangs of missing subside a little you can feel a sense of achievement and really try and fill your life with as many things that make you happy.. He will be back and the situation will ease x

Hope it went okay @Worthingmumofone
I'm sure the next few weeks will be hard but you'll adapt in no time and start the next chapter of your life. Take care.

How are you @Worthingmumofone?

DS went to Uni 5 hours away so feel for you...

So got him all settled in yesterday , his happy already made some friend in his accommodation , got his room all set up so im at least happy that his ok. Gonna be werid when i get home later today and see his room empty but feeling a bit better now thanks for all your kind words

I know how you feel op. My only child went yesterday and I'm so so sad today. Miss her so much. Hope you're feeling ok - it can only get better.

I tell myself as long as his happy im happy and ive told him he can call me at any time and if he isnt sure about something to call me, so cue 8.30am , i got the call mum what shall i do about x i cant lie i was pleased to get his call .

Parenting uni aged kids is much more fun!
Bask in the fact that he is doing something he loves, and is independent.
And...do something nice for yourself - join a club/ take a class...

you've done a good job to get him to this stage. well done.

Went shopping this week and literally stood there and went what do I like ? Its been so long since i actually considered myself just usually buying what we both eat ie what my son eats , but at least my cookie dough ice cream is safe now.

He sent me a picture of chicken he cooked , so at least i know his eating.