Appropriate/ fair discipline

[Remmy123]

I am a soft touch and I also hate seeing my children upset.

Year 7 for my son wasn't great he got in trouble for silly things almost weekly.

Day three of being back and teacher calls me to say he was seen sitting on the train platform with legs dangling over.

To say I am fuming / upset / shocked is an understatement.

I have banned him from PC and he is already going bananas saying he hates his life / school / teachers etc.

How long do I ban him for and what else can I do? I need to nip this silly / dangerous behaviour in the bud now.

I'm sick of being called by the school.

I also know I sound daft / incompetent by asking a forum but sometimes I am way too soft and feel sorry for him being so upset and give in.

Advice welcome.

Thanks

School silliness is to be punished for.. Sitting dangling over a train track needs words of comfort..
Taking away communication between his mates at a crucial friend making stage is on dodgy ground imo.

He needs you on his side imo.
And tbh I never really repunish after school already have...

@Brollypackedforscottishholiday the school arnt punishing him but called me to tell me.

Have you asked him why he was doing that? I think that it is more the type of behaviour that needs addressing to find the cause rather than a punishment as such. Based on what he says you could then decide what to do? As do you think he was aware of how dangerous it was?
With regards to the silly behaviour, is it low level issues? Is it in certain lessons or just in general? Sorry for all the questions!

That’s not school naughtiness, that’s really dangerous risk-taking behaviour.

Can you try to get to the bottom of why on earth he was doing this? It sounds like there are issues that need to be unravelled.

@nervousfirsttimer1985 he said he would have moved when the train came. Doesn't seem at all bothered and it's all my fault he is banned.

Low level behaviour such as : too much hand sanitizer abd flocking it around/ calling out in class instead waiting to be asked/ talking when he shouldn't be etc

@bigTillyMint thanks - I'll chat to him .. for now he is shouting at me to get out of his room 😬

If he's always been impulsive have a good read through the symptoms of ADD.

This is the first dangerous thing I am aware of.

He has a younger sibling and see's danger often before I do!