What is your 16yr old curfew?

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Just that really. And does it depend if say, they are riding their bike or getting a lift home?

Mine has only recently started going out, it depends on what she is doing and how she is getting home, whether she has work or school the next day. If she is just going to the park (I'm not generally happy with this, mind, and it's not something that she does often) I'd say 10pm in the summer. If she's going to a party, then midnight probably, mainly because we will collect her or wait up and I've had enough by that point!

I've got a 15 year old and I generally say 9pm. Its the same whether he's on his bike or not.

I'm a few years off 16 for oldest but plan to do similar to my parents, though depends a bit what their interests are by then.

I didn't really start going out later until that age (as I looked very young, so couldn't have faked my way into clubs or anything), but honestly there was no curfew as long as I let them know where I was - and this was pre mobiles, so should be easier now.

I think I would, if we discussed it, say midnight for weekday things like going to a gig because honestly by the time a gig in town was finished and you'd got coats and taken the tube it could be that late, but no later when there's school to go to. Weekends any time as long as we are up to date with plans. Once you allow kids out past pub closing time it doesn't get any more 'dangerous' IMO and honestly they might be safer crawling in at 6.30am than trying to make it home at 1 or 2am.

This is all very London centric of course, may be very pragmatic reasons to be different if there's no or little public transport.

Does it depend what they are doing I wonder? Mine in their teens all did evening activities which ended later than 9pm, such as theatre group, Guides, Scouts, Explorers, athletics, football training. Is that OK and are we talking more a curfew for just generally being out with friends?

If mine were just out, I wanted to know where and with whom (roughly) eg at xxx's house. They didn't have a set curfew but I would expect to be informed. If it was a party or gathering then midnight was fine (on Fri or Sat), otherwise when whatever it was was done - dd used to go to the theatre in a nearby big city at this age with a friend, they would get the bus there and I would pick them up - this was unlikely to be earlier than 10/10.30pm.

During the holidays, mine doesn't have a curfew as such but needs to tell me when they are coming home/if they're staying at a friends.

College nights i'd day midnight. Mine cycles everywhere so i don't have to do lifts

Doesn't have one as long as I know where she is

I have a very nearly sixteen year old and do ask her to get home really quite early sometimes as I assume public transport to be unsafe after a certain time (big city) and either her father or I need to collect her from the tram or train (no car) and we are not always free. I now feel I am being unreasonable reading these responses.

About to start sixth form DD doesn't have a fixed curfew and suggests a time to be home by herself. If she's travelling home to ours with a friend who is staying over, she will be out later than if she's catching a bus home by herself. Last night she went to a small music venue with a friend and was home just after 11pm. DH walked down to meet her from the bus stop. The previous weekend I'd collected her from a friend's party at midnight. School nights she wouldn't be out that late socialising but may be babysitting until fairly late.

OK, ds usually has his bike so once we put lights on it, 9.30 would reasonable? Just tyring to gauge really, so thanks for the varied responses. He doesn't do public transport and his gf is about 1/2 hr ride away.

I personally think 9.30 is very early to ask a 16yo to be home if you know where they are and with whom (well you would hope to know that anyway). Like I said, my dc did Scouts at 10yo and that finished at 9.30. What is the reason for not making it later? Does he have to get up early for school and struggle with that if he is in bed later than 10.30, for example?

My 16 year old doesn't have a curfew as such, we discuss and agree each trip as appropriate.

But, no, 9.30 isn't appropriate for a 16 year old. That's more appropriate for 12-14 year olds.

We generally discourage weekday socialising, with the exception of arranged activities (e.g sports practice/clubs, music lessons. choir, orchestra).

Weekends, we want to know where she will be, who she will be with, that she will be safe, how she is getting home (usually we tip up and pick her up), but I'd expect to be picking her up between 10.30pm and 1am depending on whether its a simple "at someone's house" or a party. We are generally led by her - she's a young adult now. The only thing we worry about and put our foot down about is that she is safe. And mostly that's solved by picking her up ourselves. A price worth paying IMO.

Fridays/Saturdays, 11.30 or midnight. It could possibly stretch to 1am for a party but I can't get to sleep if he's not home safe! Week nights - 10pmish unless there's something special happening. DS cycles everywhere so I don't usually have to go and get him.

My 17 year old doesn’t have one. He often gets back in the early hours when I’m asleep but will be in an Uber or with friends or out very locally. He went to a party on Sat which finished at midnight, but ended up at a friend’s house up the road until 3am. I checked his life 360, could see where he was and went back to sleep!
He doesn’t really go out in the week in term time so only applies to weekends and holidays.

I didn't give mine a curfew at 16 though said, "Don't be too late", if out on a school night. We always knew where he was and it was either easy to get home on the 'bus or he'd be collected, occasionally dropped off. At weekends and during school holidays we were not bothered. However he had his friends here a lot of the time.

When I was that age I always had to be home by 10 or 10.30pm and that often meant leaving a venue before the show was all over. I used to get into a terrible panic if I missed a 'bus, train or if one was cancelled because I knew I'd be in trouble. I wasn't allowed to bunk down at anyone's house (neither were they allowed at mine), but quite honestly, I was often so scared I'd stay out all night. I got into all sorts of Trouble and there was no need. When I had a child I knew I wouldn't be the same as my parents and there was never any bother.