13 year old DD self harming, tried to commit suicide

[Lostsoul02]

At wits end, Camhs no help at all, said her suicide attempt was self harming ( [Edited by MNHQ to remove method] , hospitalised). They have not diagnosed her with anything, never been seen by a psychiatrist or psychologist, only a nurse.DD said she was trying to take her life not just self harm. Has anyone got any advice or been through similar with camhs? TIA

Thank you Twoblondes and DishingOutDone. I just want dd to be assessed by a psychiatrist. Then i will quite happily pay for private treatment buy it may be we need to pay for a private psychiatrist which is not an issue but obviously time is ticking and each day is so unpredictable at the moment. Camhs is severely underfunded, where I am there is no out of hours Camhs crisis team, the nearest camhs inpatient unit is over 30 miles away and covers 4 LA areas including a city and is only a 12 bedded unit.

gamerchick, dd has not had her phone for a week now, we have deleted her sm accounts and when she does get her phone back, there will be time limits and close monitoring of her activity on it. SM does have alot to answer for, it's toxic. We have told her she needs more hobbies and interests. We have encouraged her to start playing guitar again and she does for a little while each day which is progress as she did not play for months. You're right about a and e, I am not taking her there everytime she makes a threat. Ours is stretched as it is and there is no camhs crisis team there so as you say it is pointless. Also, as I said in pp, dd made no threat before making her attempt so we had no warning she was a serious danger to herself, she was in her bedroom where we thought she was safe and had removed all risks within house and her room but she was obviously determined to find a way.

Gosh, this just sounds hideous for you and your family. If you have the money, just go private. Yes, you shouldn't have to but mental health services are disgracefully under-resourced so if you can possibly afford private treatment, then just go for it. It's awful but your DD needs help sooner rather than later. So sorry about your Mum too

I've had a lot of CAMHS involvement with my DS2 he was also on meds for a short period of time. Try to get her talking, it really is the best thing for her right now.

So sorry you're going through this and sorry for the loss of your mum

The "parenting mental health" group on FB is excellent and knowledgeable. I've had excellent advice but ultimately sought paid for services for psychiatry and psychology. Best wishes.

Update: have been to camhs today and finally they are going to have her assessed by a psychiatrist not sure how quickly this will happen but it is progress. More revelations today at session, dd is showing signs and behaviours relating to a particular eating disorder. So more heartache but hopefully now we are making progress with regards to getting a diagnosis, dd can get the right help, whether that be through camhs or private. Thank you all for your advice and kind words regarding dds struggles and my recent loss

Oh, lostsoul, I'm so sorry you and your family are going through such a hard time. Each new piece of information (however upsetting) is good though - forewarned is forearmed if you see what I mean. More knowledge means more in your armoury to help your DD. Best wishes for a peaceful weekend