Tween really doesn't want to move!

[Auralayla]

I am a single mum living in a shall we say slightly rough area of time with my 12 year old son. During the last 6 weeks of summer holidays he has started going out to hang out with friends, I've noticed a big change in his behaviour, breaking rules, attitude etc, his 'friends' are bad news and I want out. So I have been looking to move to a nicer area, he would still be going to the same school but I don't want him hanging around this rough part anymore. I raised the subject with him and he is fuming! He says he loves it here and I'm taking him away from his best friends. He has cried, shouted, slammed doors, hit things and is barely talking to me. Please reassure me that all will be well!!

You're the parent. You decide where you live. You're doing it for all the right reasons. He'll get over it.

course he dosent want to move! His bad friends will be hugely influencing him

Is there any way to move slightly further out/new school? If he is still in the same school he will be mixing with them and bunking off?

nip it in the bud asap

I would think that if he's still at the same school and still hanging out with the same friends then he's probably going to be heading back to that same area in the evenings anyway. So I'm not sure how much you'll gain tbh. But I appreciate why you would want to move.

I would move further so he has to change schools otherwise it's pointless.

I would still move and let me make a fuss. He will get over it

Thanks everyone :) I know I'm doing the right thing it's just difficult seeing your child hate you! We live in a town that is in the middle of nowhere really so to move to a different school would mean a move a fair way away. I'm just hoping that the less time he hangs about here, the friendships will fizzle out and hopefully he will make new friends.

If you are still.close enough for him to go to the same school he can still hang out with the same friends. We live the other aide of town to DS's school (he got in on a sports scholarship) he rides his bike 4 miles there and 4 miles back (or gets DH to pick him and the bike up more often than not) to see his friends.

Its may be better to be in the same area that he is hanging about you may find out more of what he is up to that way.