Teenage daughter weight

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My daughter is 15 and has been steadily putting on more and more weight. She has seen Nutritionists and pediatricians. We try not to have junk in the house. We have talked to her...but she wont stop overeating. She has had anxiety issues, which seem to be getting better (has seen a councellor,) and I now try not to talk about her weight as she just gets upset... She is now in the obese category on the BMI scale.. I am at a loss.. she does not like exercise and she just refuses to be mindful of what she is eating. Every so often she says she is going to loose weight, but refuses to take a sensible approach. Everything you say, she knows better... I have tried to encourage her, because I am quite active myself, but she doesn't want to get involved. I would appreciate some advice. Thanks

The more you pester the less likely she will do anything. You will give her a complex and cause more issues then you solve.

Would she attend Slimmjng World- if you took her along? There is a big discount for children I believe and a friendly warm atmosphere. You could get ideas there too.

My DD was telling how upsetting and embarrassing it was to hear her friends DM go on about her friends weight. We both thought it cruel and it was obvious why the poor girl was stress eating with a DM like that. The brother of course can do no wrong.

Where is your DD getting her food from

The more you get at her about her weight the more she will eat. You need to work on helping her build her self esteem rather than knocking her down. And don't take her to slimming world. My DM took me to weight watchers 25 yeara ago after slimfast had failed and it really fucked me up.

Totally disagree about Slimming World being bad. They are very supportive there and focus on eating fruit and veg more. Carbs and dairy are all allowed

It has to come from her. All you can do is model sensible eating and minimise unnecessary treats in the house. Of course you should have pudding or a slice of cake still in moderation . Please don't mention her weight unless she asks you for help. She has eyes and knows that she is overweight. All it is likely to do is make her feel worse about herself than she already does. Try to build up her self esteem in any way you can and if and when she wants to lose weight she will.

Can you do more as a family? Go for long walks, bike rides? So it doesn’t “feel” like exercise? Once she’s built up her stamina a bit, it’ll be a bit more enjoyable!
Does she get involved in the cooking with you all? Does she menu plan, choose what to have?

Why is she seeing nutritionists and paediatricians?

It sounds like there's more to this than a teenager gaining weight?

My mum started going on at me about my weight at the age of seven and has yet to stop (I'm in my 40s). My mum dragged me to a dietician, started halving my portions and has made me feel disgusting on more than one occasion. But the more she goes on the more annoyed I get and when I was a teenager, the more I dug my heals in.

I lost weight at university when my activity levels increased without me realising. Years of my mother yelling "When are you going to lose weight" did nothing.