Need advice

[emsie2]

My mum has never liked my dp Cos she old school and like the way he talks but his verbal abuse or physical
And dp don't like her too
So im piggy in middle
My 17 ds has moved out and is blaming my dp
As my mum has decided to get involved and ask my ds questions when she never bothered with him before
So I fuel the awful mum in between the 2

Are you saying he is verbally and physically abusive?

Where has your ds gone?

Sorry I meant not

My son walked out A month ago to leave with girlfriend as I didn't agree on the age gap hun being 17 her 15

So your mum and your DS don’t like him? Perhaps they have reason to ?

In what way do they not like the way he talks?
What does your son say about your dp?

I think I've worded it wrong sorry as was upset
My mum doesn't like my otherhalf cos he speaks his mind .
He's Not physical or verbal to me at all

But back in July my son walked out as he wanted to do it on his own and didn't want to live by our rules felt inprisoned

Fast forward to know my mum has got involved and spoke to son
Which he now other half to why his left

So let me see if I have this right.

Your son and partner don’t get on.
Your son didn’t want to live by your rules so moved in with his girlfriend, presumably with her parents as she is 15. You are not happy about this (understandably).
Your mum asked your son what happened and your son told her he left due to how your partner treated him.

Is that right?

If so I would try and look objectively at your partner and sons relationship. What is it that made the situation so hard? Is your partner very hard on him? What’s your relationship with your son like?

Teens can be tricky, sometimes they dislike step parents for no good reason, but in this case, seeing as it’s both your mum and your son, there may be something there.

If it were me I would let son know that he is my priority and he is welcome to come home whenever he wishes. Take a good long look at your partner and how he behaves towards your son. Your sons behaviour may be justified, or it may not be. Try abs get them talking and see if compromises can be made. The age gap between your son and his girlfriend is not that big in the great scheme of things and I’d probably appear supportive on the surface alto keep the peace and the lines of communication open. This also really has nothing to do with your mum. So she needs to butt out.