My son has always been defiant and can't cope with demands. Plus has had anger issues and an explosive temper which I have tried repeatedly toget help for ( managed 6 weeks counselling through camhs).He has coasted through school but now is at college and is late,forgets work or just doesn't bother. He smokes weed every day with a gang of friends who have no jobs. He sleeps all day, goes out at night and comes in early hours. His attitude is beyond vile. He refuses to get a part time job, instead spending savings which were earmarked for uni,a car etc. I never see him eat, he is stick thin. I have no way of talking to him as he either shuts it down by saying " don't speak to me" or tries to weave words and argue over semantics ( eg " I woke you at 7 why didn't you get up? No you didn't it was 7.02, why are you lying? Answer the question etc).
Basically I feel like I'm having a breakdown. I'm a single parent,work full time. I have brought up 2 other children who have done very well. I have triedto be there for him, support him,give him chances, praise and tell him he is loved and that I am proud of him ( even now). I'm seeking help from the GP as I can't sleep or concentrate.I feel like a total failure.