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Advice please: DS has Covid and wants to spend remaining isolation period with all his friends...

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newdocket · 21/08/2021 13:41

...at a friend's house. No parent there. All of them (probably about 8 of them) went to the same festival and all have Covid.

I've said no for a variety of reasons (it's not legal, what if someone gets really ill etc) but apparently everyone else is going and their parents are fine with it. WWYD? It just feels wrong to me, but am I way off the mark?!

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newdocket · 21/08/2021 13:42

Should add that he came back from the festival Monday, tested positive Tuesday am. Has been here ever since. Symptoms started on Sunday, so he's out of isolation on Thurs..

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Pissinthepottyplease · 21/08/2021 13:44

How old is he?

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newdocket · 21/08/2021 13:44

16

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CovidCorvid · 21/08/2021 13:45

If they all have covid I can’t really see the issue…..apart from how is he going to get there? If he can get there safely without seeing anyone and if they can be trusted to not leave the house I can’t see it being the end of the world. But I’d be worried they’d nip out to the shops, etc.

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newdocket · 21/08/2021 13:48

He says he would walk and wear a mask. I'm not sure I would trust them not to leave the house. They are all in the 'I feel fine now' stage. Which is great, but does not mean they can't give it to someone else.

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Chloemol · 21/08/2021 13:49

Opeat 16 he wouldn’t be going. He stays at home isolating

Reallybadidea · 21/08/2021 13:50

I can't see why it's any different to going to the festival in the first place really Confused

MotionActivatedDog · 21/08/2021 13:51

Of course they wouldn’t isolate!! 😂 does he think you came up the river in a bubble?

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newdocket · 21/08/2021 13:55

Probably (river/bubble)!

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CovidCorvid · 21/08/2021 13:58

If you can’t trust him to isolate with them then he doesn’t go. Friend of mine has an 18yo at night and some Of his housemates got covid. Her ds stayed in his room but the covid positive ones had mates over all the time!!! The people who came over knew their friends had covid and weren’t bothered!

MrsSquirrel · 21/08/2021 14:05

Aah the old "everyone else is going and their parents are fine with it" line. Hmm

You are not way off the mark. I would be saying no, it feels wrong to me too. Self-isolation means staying home, so it's undoubtedly against the rules. Also, I would be concerned about no parents/adults in the house.

My DD went to the 110 Above festival last weekend and tested positive on Tuesday, same timescale as your DS. She feels fine now and is getting bored. Luckily most of the friends she went with didn't catch covid, so no party invites Wink

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newdocket · 21/08/2021 15:19

Thanks. I'm glad I'm not the only one who (allegedly) thinks it's wrong. He's not happy about it and pretty sure he is weighing up whether to just go anyway, he's in full throes of stroppy teen.

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newdocket · 21/08/2021 15:28

Gah, I meant I'm glad that you also think it's wrong even if all these other parents (allegedly) think it's alright. DS has a really bad cough too and I want to keep an eye on him.

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Frazzled2207 · 21/08/2021 15:52

I think I would let him if I totally trusted him not to leave the house.

rookiemere · 21/08/2021 16:12

I can't see what's so bad about it,provided they do stay in. They've all already got Covid so at least if they isolate together, they'll have some company.

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newdocket · 21/08/2021 16:58

Yes, I see that. He's certainly bored out of his mind. I just have a feeling it isn't right - particularly concerned by there being no parent there in case someone takes a turn/wants to go out - but I don't want to be unnecessarily mean either.

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ineedaholidaynow · 21/08/2021 17:05

These festivals appear to have been a breeding ground for COVID. Many youngsters near me have now come down with it after attending a festival.

Think the lack of parental supervision would really put me off, and how they would get there in the first place. Where are the family of the teenager whose house it is?

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newdocket · 21/08/2021 17:13

Every teen I know in different parts of the country who went to this festival has come home with Covid. It must have been rampant there, despite the supposedly stringent testing procedures.

Well yes, I don't know where they are as I don't know this person really. I expect they've gone on holiday!

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Frazzled2207 · 21/08/2021 17:24

@newdocket

Yes, I see that. He's certainly bored out of his mind. I just have a feeling it isn't right - particularly concerned by there being no parent there in case someone takes a turn/wants to go out - but I don't want to be unnecessarily mean either.
indeed if there was a grown up keeping an eye I'd be far more ok with it.
Frazzled2207 · 21/08/2021 17:26

@newdocket

He says he would walk and wear a mask. I'm not sure I would trust them not to leave the house. They are all in the 'I feel fine now' stage. Which is great, but does not mean they can't give it to someone else.
if I was allowing it he'd be getting a lift.
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