My DS is 14. He’s a lovely, funny, kind, clever boy. He’s daft though, easily led and will do anything to make people laugh even if it means him getting in trouble.
He hangs around with a nice group of kids but is very image conscious and impressed by designer clothes and cool kids!
A few weeks ago when I picked him up he said that a girl from a different school had been hanging around with them. He said she’s the hardest girl in town and seemed impressed by this.
Since then he’s hung around more with this girl and a few of her mates. This girl is also friends with the “hardest boy in town” who my DS has always been scared of.
I can see where this is going, I’ve tried to talk to my DS and have said that you don’t get a reputation for being hard without being a bully and being nasty. His answer is that they’re not nasty to him and he likes them, they’re his mates!
I’ve just made him show me the messages they’ve sent each other (not sure that was the right thing to do) and they were fairly innocent but perhaps a bit flirty.
I really don’t want him meeting up with these cool hard kids. What do I do? Ban him from seeing them or just let it run it’s course and hope he’s sensible enough not to go down the wrong path in order to impress these kids?