Acceptable?

[vilamoura2003]

I just wondered what people's opinions are on this situation - family on holiday, mum, dad and 16 yr old teen daughter.

All together in the same studio apartment for 10 days now, dad up early this morning to go out, teen moaning he is opening the curtain and sunlight streaming into the room. He tells her to "shut the fuck up"? She's slightly annoying in a stroppy teen kind of way, but generally a good kid (if not a little outspoken at times - a trait she gets from him)

Am I overreacting, if a teen is being annoying, is it ok to be swearing at them. I feel this is unacceptable 🤔 Do I need to take a chill pill?

Would you like your teenager swearing at you?

10 days on a studio apartment,dear God I'd be swearing my head off too!

Am I overreacting, if a teen is being annoying, is it ok to be swearing at them.

How was she being annoying?

He got up early and opened the curtains so the sunlight was streaming into the room

Not an acceptable way to talk to her. And she's right to be annoyed. Opening the curtains early when other people are sleeping is a knob move in itself.

No, not acceptable! It’s hardly a surprise that a 16 year old would grumble at being woken early on holiday, actually so would plenty of people and he should have more consideration given three people are sharing the space.

Does he often speak to her like that? I can’t think of any circumstance where I’d be ok with DH telling our dc to STFU.

“Shut the fuck up” is quite a harsh reaction for just a bit of moaning about being woken up early.

I think a studio apartment was a bad idea for 10 days! My 16 year old dd wouldn’t be thrilled about having to share a room with her dad.

That’s disgusting language to say in front of a young person.
A studio apartment isn’t the best for a teen girl with her parents either ( in my view)

The studio apartment was absolutely bad idea. She needs her own space.
And it was not acceptable for him to swear at her. I’d be absolutely fuming and considering the whole relationship.

I've got a 16 year old.

I'd be raging if my DH told me to shut the fuck up. It's utterly unacceptable.

I'd be even angrier if he said it to our 16 year old.

It's frankly disgusting for a bloke to say that to any woman - but to his DD? I don't understand how you could think that was in any way ok.

It’s unacceptable to say that to anyone, not just your teenager.

Appalling way to speak to anyone, let alone a family member

Very mean spirited and selfish to open the curtain when someone else is sleeping

100% ridiculous to book a studio apartment for a couple and a 16 yr old uless for a single night stop over somewhere.

How did you think this was likely to end ?

Absolutely unacceptable way to speak to anyone in a family, whatever age they are.

10 days in a studio apartment with a set up like this?
Fuck that.

No not ok.
How early was it?

He sounds like an absolute selfish prat. If he gets up early to go out that's his choice but why wake everybody else up on holiday. Awfil idea for a studio appartmnt too.

Thanks for all the replies - I didn't think it was acceptable but thought I would check 👍

My sister laughed it off, but it didn't sit right. I will choose my moment to tell her her OH is being a bit of a dick 🥴

No it's not acceptable. It's a horrible way to speak to anyone, let alone your own DD.

Ask your friend if she'd be OK with the DD swearing back to them. Because that's what's going to happen if it carries on, and I bet the story will then be all 'poor us, our evil teen is swearing at us'.