Wet dreams!

[moofolk]

I'm a single mum of boys and my thirteen year old had his first wet dream.

I'm really open talking about puberty, sex, bodies etc., (often to the point that my kids are squirming a bit but I refuse to even pretend to be embarrassed in the hope that they'll be open with me and not ashamed of their bodies / scared to ask questions), but hadn't really thought about this aspect.

He came in to my room in the middle of the night confused, and showed me his sheets which I'm pleased he felt comfortable enough to do but I don't ever need to see up close again. 🤮

I've told him it's nothing to be ashamed of, given the chat about bodies getting used to new functions etc, but what I don't know is how often it happens, how long it goes on for etc.

I really don't want to Google 'wet dreams' or anything about teen sexuality in case I get things that are ... well I'm sure you can imagine why.

I've got two more sons who are younger so need to get my head round this and any tips from mums of teen boys gratefully received!

I'm glad you reassured him. It happens. Perhaps he would be more comfortable having a small towel in bed with him (people usually wake in time from such dreams), then it doesn't need to be talked about or shown, the towel can just be put in the laundry bin with other towels.

Your boy is growing up! All quite normal.

Tissues by the bed always!

Tissues
Flannel or towel nearby
Clean PJs
Show him how to put his sheets on for a wash and how to change his bed.

You could try leaving tissues in his room but it's unlikely that he will wake until its just to late anyway.

This is likely to happen fairly often so maybe just make sure he has clean bedding at hand and let him deal with it.

These dreams can continue throughout adult life, although less frequently. I am in my early fifties and still have the very very occasional one

Thanks everyone!

Yes I totally reassured him, and as I said in OP I'm taking the fact that he came to me as a win, but obviously he needs to be equipped to deal with it himself. He's still my little boy and came for a cuddle with mum after but once he's more aware of what's happening, even what he's dreaming about then that is going to be a resounding no no no for both of us!!

I'm not sure I want to know this, but is it a result of a sexy dream? My feeling is that it's just the body doing its thing, and maybe thoughts / dreams etc then become attached to the physical sensation once there's more awareness of what it means?

As I said, I've never given this much thought before!

He knows how to change the sheets, and I'm getting a proper box of tissues when I go shopping today.

Hadn't thought of towel / flannel though thanks. Changing all the bedding in the middle of the night can't be a fun thing to do so if he can just clean up and do it in the morning I assume would be better.

Interesting that some say he will begin to wake up in time and others that he won't.

I'm taking this to mean that I / he won't be able to predict whether he'll wake up or not. And that there's a whole range of normal.

He'll see his dad in the next couple of weeks too, but need to be on it in the meantime as it's just me. He has his own room but his brothers share so that will no doubt present its own challenges, but a bridge to be crossed at a later date.

I do have some experience of penises but as well as being a woman I'm a lesbian so it's really not my area.

It's happening because of what he is dreaming about, going through puberty just about everything and anything could be a catalyst.