Would you tell their mum?

[Thenameiwanted]

If you caught your 14 yo daughter smoking with a friend and then found messages from the friend talking about getting some weed, would you tell their mum?

No I wouldnt. I remember what I was like at that age. Theyre never going to be able to afford much

No, I deal with my own shit, it's up them to deal with theirs.

Yes if a friend, no if not - but I’d tell the child if I caught them again, I would.

@Branleuse

No I wouldnt. I remember what I was like at that age. Theyre never going to be able to afford much

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@CloudPop what bit dont you understand?

In other words I was interested at trying weed at 14 and so were loads of people, and I imagine teenagers havent changed a great deal. Of course now most of them are mostly indoors on fortnite instead of getting up to mischief such as underage drinking of alcopops and trying low grade weed with their mates, but unless they have access to a lot of money, then the chances are it wont go much further.
Addiction to drugs is most often a trauma response and its not the general progression from teenage experimentation in majority of kids, so I think its best to keep these things in perspective. Telling your kids friends mum on them is just likely to cause conflict in your kids social life for very little benefit. If you dont want your kid to hang around with that friend then you should deal with it with your child but not get involved with their parents.

Thats my opinion anyway. Parenting strategies do vary though and I get that lots of people would consider this more serious than I do, but im assuming you didnt just want one opinion

@Branleuse

No I wouldnt. I remember what I was like at that age. Theyre never going to be able to afford much

I agree.

I doubt if the weed would actually materialise and, if so, it would be a tiny amount.

It's not worth getting worked up about and I definitely wouldn't tell the other child's mother because the child may have just been 'talking big'.

I'd tell my child that I wanted to see and hear nothing about it ever again and if I caught her, there would be consequences. However I doubt she will actually do anything.