DS being bullied at summer job 😕

[Lotusmonster]

DS18 got a summer pre-Uni job at a local activity centre. Started pretty well tho not happy as many staff members smoke weed. DS hates drugs and cigarettes. There’s not much of an age gap in the team hierarchy. DS struggles with OCD and is in active therapy for this….so his mental health is a bit fragile. Last week his supervisor (this was a one off) pinched him in front of another team member. Was apparently more humiliating than physically painful. DS didn’t know how to respond. He values the job, the money, decent hours etc but if he complains given the causal nature is likely to be asked to leave or be ridiculed. Would value any views please on helping DS to manage this situation. Thanks

So what if the other employees smoke weed. As long as it’s not at work then it’s none of his business. Why is he ‘not happy’ about something that has nothing to do with him? He needs to learn to be a bit less judgemental or he’s going to have real issues at university.

The pinching is really annoying but one incident isn’t bulling. I’m guessing the supervisor is also quite young as it sounds like immature messing around. I agree with PP that a swift ‘fuck off’ was all that was needed.

No point being miserable for a crappy summer job though. If he can’t get on with these people then he might be best leaving.

So it’s a one off incident.The weed smoking happens at work during breaks. I do appreciate posters perspectives thank you!

@Lotusmonster

So it’s a one off incident.The weed smoking happens at work during breaks. I do appreciate posters perspectives thank you!

If it's a one off incident I'd just encourage him to voice his feelings. Tell him to speak to the supervisor and explain how their actions made him feel. He'll proven get an apology.

*probably get

If it, or anything similar happens, a quick retort of "What the hell?" and pinch/shove/whatever back is what my ds advise. I don't think comments such as "That's not acceptable" will have the desired result.

This is NOT bullying, OMG what a massive over reaction

So it’s a one off incident.The weed smoking happens at work during breaks. I do appreciate posters perspectives thank you!

In their breaks at work? This just gets worse. I would be encouraging my son to complain and leave.

So you accept that this is not infact bullying then? And instead maybe just not an appropriate place for your son?

He needs to weigh up the income vs him not really liking his job I think and make a decision from there.

I wouldn't have thought this is an appropriate place for anyone's teen to be honest. Inappropriate behaviour and smoking weed in breaks at work? And it's an activity centre, so presumably not that safe?

I don't dispute that @MrsPelligrinoPetrichor but that wasn't what the OP was asking

Drugs being consumed at work even if during breaks at an activity centre is a potential safety issue. I think it is a police matter.

I appreciate this makes it difficult for your DS though, even if you are the person to contact the police.

@Lotusmonster

So it’s a one off incident.The weed smoking happens at work during breaks. I do appreciate posters perspectives thank you!

A one off incident isn't bullying. Nor is smoking weed during breaks, but I find it hard to believe they are doing that and coming back to work after, it would be obvious.

Is he sure they’re smoking weed in breaks and not roll-ups?
I’d find that more disturbing than the pinch - which I’d want to know the context of. We’re they mucking around, did the supervisor do it to humiliate your son or more ‘in play’?
If your son isn’t comfortable there he should leave. If he wants to stay then he needs to report the pinch and be very sure it’s weed they’re smoking (and then report that to head office).

But surely the smoking weed is illegal so should not happen in the workplace and therefore the OP's son has every right to be angry

Cannabis is a class B drug and police can issue a £90 for using it.