Weekend away without almost 18 yr old?

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DD is 18 in three months and also works.
Lives at home.
Can cook, use public transport etc and OH wants just us to go away for 3 nights without her. Will be 200 miles away in uk still.
DD said ok and be good to have space from us. Boyfriend will stay.
Boyfriend Already stays a lot when here.
Opinions please as I am worrier.
Say if fire, party, gets kicked out etc

I mean locked out not kicked out

Of course it’s fine. Have a lovely time.

Fire? Have you taught her fire safety? That's all we can ever do.

Party? If you don't trust her, don't leave her.

Getting locked out? Is this something she normally does a lot? Or does she carry a key and use it as any other adult would?

@iwilldoitsoon

Fire? Have you taught her fire safety? That's all we can ever do.

Party? If you don't trust her, don't leave her.

Getting locked out? Is this something she normally does a lot? Or does she carry a key and use it as any other adult would?

Typical teenager Can be stroppy, careless, messy and does like alcohol and raves! But can cook, get places, not scared etc, works.

I was leaving mine at 16 years old.

I was living alone at 17.
Of course they will be fine.

@TheNameTheWebsiteForgot

I was leaving mine at 16 years old.

I was living alone at 17.
Of course they will be fine.

Good to hear as she can be a handful in many ways re stroppy, she knows it all, drinking too much, arguing with boyfriend! Lots of good points too that she can cook( just doesn't know how to clean up properly after!!), can use trains and buses, can use washing machine but I know they have sneaky cigs, light candles etc which I don't want

I have a DD the same age. I would go op but I would have exactly the same worries as you! Especially regarding parties. I trust DD but there's always potential for things to go wrong when a big group of teens get together. So I would probably go away for two nights, not three, and I would be clear about friends coming around, either ban them, or set a limit in numbers of four or six or whatever you feel comfortable with. They may not stick to it but it might prevent them having a full blow out party! Also, if you have friendly neighbours or family nearby, it wouldn't hurt to let them know that you are away and to keep an eye out.

If others think this is over the top, I know it probably is, and I don't care . Teens obviously have individual personalities, but the ones I know, speaking very generally, can be incredibly mature and intelligent and responsible one minute, and as daft as a brush, the next!

@Twiggyandcrisp

I have a DD the same age. I would go op but I would have exactly the same worries as you! Especially regarding parties. I trust DD but there's always potential for things to go wrong when a big group of teens get together. So I would probably go away for two nights, not three, and I would be clear about friends coming around, either ban them, or set a limit in numbers of four or six or whatever you feel comfortable with. They may not stick to it but it might prevent them having a full blow out party! Also, if you have friendly neighbours or family nearby, it wouldn't hurt to let them know that you are away and to keep an eye out.

If others think this is over the top, I know it probably is, and I don't care . Teens obviously have individual personalities, but the ones I know, speaking very generally, can be incredibly mature and intelligent and responsible one minute, and as daft as a brush, the next!

It would be three as an event And told DD only boyfriend which she has agreed to. We have camera doorbell etc so can see who comes to house too.

I remember be left alone for two nights at 18 when mum and dad decided I was mature and responsible enough and went off somewhere for the weekend with just my younger sister.

She'll enjoy the responsibility and your house will probably still be standing when you get back 🤣

I had a party with around a dozen friends and the damage was not too bad and all cleared up before they got back, biggest problem was the person who put down and forgot about a lit cigarette on the window sill in the bathroom and burnt a big line into it. I had to sand, repaint the window sill and get rid of the smell before they returned. Used emulsion instead of gloss as I didn't know any better and it was all I could find at home, if they noticed they never mentioned it.

I also very kindly washed mum and dads bedding before they returned so they had nice clean sheets (as found out a couple of friends had had a nap in there).

Between parties bf and I enjoyed the space and freedom and spent quality time together on the sofa, rug, stairs, in shower, kitchen table/worktops.............

Best not to think too much about it, try to give them a local contact for emergencies, and tell them to call you if they have any serious problems.

@Blanketpolicy

I remember be left alone for two nights at 18 when mum and dad decided I was mature and responsible enough and went off somewhere for the weekend with just my younger sister.

She'll enjoy the responsibility and your house will probably still be standing when you get back 🤣

I had a party with around a dozen friends and the damage was not too bad and all cleared up before they got back, biggest problem was the person who put down and forgot about a lit cigarette on the window sill in the bathroom and burnt a big line into it. I had to sand, repaint the window sill and get rid of the smell before they returned. Used emulsion instead of gloss as I didn't know any better and it was all I could find at home, if they noticed they never mentioned it.

I also very kindly washed mum and dads bedding before they returned so they had nice clean sheets (as found out a couple of friends had had a nap in there).

Between parties bf and I enjoyed the space and freedom and spent quality time together on the sofa, rug, stairs, in shower, kitchen table/worktops.............

Best not to think too much about it, try to give them a local contact for emergencies, and tell them to call you if they have any serious problems.

Reassuring sort of🤣🤣