Teens

[Mommytofour]

Hi everyone,
I'm looking for some advice now im not up to date on the mumsnet lingo all the dh dsd exh etc just a heads up!
Anyway I have a partner and have recently had a baby with him but have 3 children from a previous relationship, I've been with my partner now 4 years and my 14 year old daughter just can't accept him I don't know what to do anymore theyre at logger heads alot of the time im worried my relationship may break down because of this, or my relationship with her will break down further, the children do still see their dad and he & my 14 Yr old do have a close relationship not sure if he's feeding her stuff sneakily to break us up I just would like some tips of how to get their relationship a little more blissful, if we go on a day trip or swimming or on holiday she's a different kid and almost wants my partner to leave us to it and go have fun with her but when we get back we hardly see her or if he speaks to her shes very uninterested shows no effort to engage in conversation etc please help or at least tell me this is normal? Will it get better... ever? Thankyou in advance

if we go on a day trip or swimming or on holiday she's a different kid and almost wants my partner to leave us to it and go have fun with her but when we get back we hardly see her or if he speaks to her shes very uninterested shows no effort to engage in conversation etc please help or at least tell me this is normal? Will it get better... ever?

Isn't this just normal 14yo behaviour?

Thanks for your response, @BunnyRuddington
Well im not sure I've not had the pleasure of a 14year old before so I wanted to make sure lol, if it is normal then I can rest and feel there isn't such a massive problem, is it normal? Do I wait it out in hope she'll eventually come around ? Advice for the meantime?

To be honest actually reading back what I wrote It does sound fairly normal maybe I'm just reading too much into it expecting this happy ever after that doesn't exist so to speak most 14 Yr olds are this way thinking back to when I was that age I just worry and want her to be happy with decisions I make for a better future for us all

A lot of what you say does sound like the normal teenage stuff, but throw into the mix living with a man you are not related to and a new baby and it becomes more complex and harder for her.

my 14 year old daughter just can't accept him

In what sense and when did it start? Was she ok with him before he moved in, before the baby arrived?

I don't know what to do anymore theyre at logger heads alot of the time

They shouldn't be at logger heads, you and your dp should be managing this so they aren't. Think about the triggers and how to avoid them. Remember your dp is the adult here and should be the one more capable of diffusing situations.