Grooming? Advice needed please

[FlatteredFool]

Hi, my dd14 has been messaging someone she has never met and they have been e changing very explicit sexual messages that read like a porn script.
I'm dealing with the phone issue ie no phone now, but am not sure how best to report this as he is older than her and it's clear he is the instigator. Police? Social services?

I'd appreciate any advice on how to speak to her about this too. She is vulnerable with her mental health and suspected ASD.

She is going to be very embarrassed and angry that I know about these messages.

He is not the only person she's been sexting either and the lies she has been telling are phenomenal. Like at 14 she's slept with 11 different boys.

I'm calm but horrified and deeply concerned.

The phone has been an issue of contention for a long time and under her dads control but turns out there've been no restrictions on it at all and as I'm not allowed near it I've had no say. Lots going on there but being dealt with so I don't want to get sidetracked on that issue. Suffice to say she no longer has any internet access or a phone.

Police, Social Services and the school pastoral team - I would not discuss it with her until the professionals have - I would discuss with all agencies concerned how best to approach her and, if possible, I would not disclose to her that it was you who has seen these messages or she may emotionally and physically bolt - deal with this quickly and hopefully the bastard will be strung up and your daughter will be safe 🌼🌹🌼🌹

Thank you. The police are coming tonight to speak to her. I've informed her social worker and will email school once the police have been.

Is her father aware of what has been happening?

Police but also report online with the ceop button. Attached a link. This goes straight to the internet police. She would of had an internet safety talk at school (I'm a school teacher) the videos we use are the official ceop ones (they are on you tube) they are hard hitting but cover the consequences and how to stay safe. Make sure you pick the age appropriate one.

www.ceop.police.uk/Safety-Centre/

Hope this helps. Also contact school the safe guarding team and SENCO will have a lot of resources to help you and your child. Sadly this isn't uncommon.

Yes, her dad is aware now but wasn't as despite being advised to check her phone and put restrictions on it to avoid exactly this, he hasn't.

I'll have a look at that link, thank you.

Thank you so much for that link. I've filed a report and let school know too. I don't think the police will come tonight now so they'll probably phone tomorrow and arrange to visit.