How to ‘make’ them work?

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So it’s mocks next week for Y10 and Dd hasn’t done enough work them -a couple of hours in total?
Problem is phone largely and the addictive nature of TikTok etc, but if I force her to leave it downstairs or physically take it away she gets so pissed off and says I’m trying to control her etc that she can’t/won’t work. She will do some work if ‘left alone’ but it’s not enough and not consistent imo as she won’t accept any help or advice as I nag, apparently ,

I’m pathetically grateful when she does anything at all in reality.

Any suggestions for how to get her to work ‘without nagging’ and without arguments about the bloody phone…

@ZenNudist sadly imo too many non-academic kids are pushed to go to uni when they really shouldn’t be, but it’s possible to go to the old polytechnics with very low grades.

Parental controls on the apps. She can still text, that way she can’t use the excuse that she needs to be able to ask study questions of her friends. We just kept blocked until all agreed work was done for the day. Another option is unblock for a bit for each solid block to study time, but I don’t like having to police that closely.

My niece scraped gcse passes, did a Btech but hasn’t found related work or gone into further study.
It’s a shame as she was capable of much more that could’ve widened her options, but she saw her social life as more important with all that entailed (you don’t want to know!).
As a parent you want your kid to reach their potential, but it’s not always in your hands.

I feel exactly the same, completely over invested. We are getting the results in now and as expected it isn't looking good! My DS did actually sit and 'revise' however, he might as well not have bothered as he's hopeless at focusing plus the work over lockdown has been haphazard. My husband is very much a leave them to it person whilst I'm happy to help. I got told by my son last night he wants my help, all his friends' parents have helped but I'm stuck between the two of them. How I wish they'd just abolish exams for my sake!