Sex under my roof

[Mairyhinge]

Hello fellow teen parents please can anyone help?
My son, almost 19, has a girlfriend who lives in another town. He's been to visit her the past 3 weekends but this weekend she's coming here. First time we will meet and she's nervous, ( I'm terrified!)
They'll be sleeping together in his room which is on another floor of the house.
I feel sick at the thought but I don't know why other than my old fashioned head?
How do you cope with this? He's a good boy, sensible ( I hope! We've had the talk) but to think they'll be doing it under my roof ....
please be kind and don't tell me I'm an old fashioned old biddy!

Just don’t think about it at all! Presumably when you lived with your parents you didn’t think about them having sex a lot. You just put it out of your mind.

Frankly he’s probably up there in his room or in the shower wanking multiple times a day, or having phone sex with the gf, so I’m not sure why sex is so much more disturbing to think about!

If they are noisy, then after the gf goes home have a word with DS about keeping the noise down, or you and his dad will get some sweet noisy revenge and embarrass you, next time she comes to stay.

Stop thinking about it! If he thought about you and his father I imagine he’d feel similarly, come to that imagining any couple you know is pretty eragghh... so don’t.

I think you need to try and not think about it. Your DS is an adult and will engage in sexual relationships. I understand it's difficult for you because it may happen in your house but if it wasn't in your house, it would be somewhere else. Maybe even somewhere that isn't particularly safe.

As long as your DS is responsible and aware of consent, boundaries and contraception, I wouldn't worry.