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13year old - girl friendship issues

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jimbob1977 · 25/05/2021 12:04

I'm after some advice. Since returning to school in March my DD friendships have gone completely upside down. Her original friendship group excluded her, as she liked to spend lunch times with another group of girls. She is now sat on the outside of several groups and doesn't feel like she has anyone. She feels like no one cares. She just wants someone to ask her to do something out of school, but the invites never come. I encourage her to make arrangements with people but she gets cancelled on. I really don't want to make an issue of it, but it breaks me to see her lonely. I dread her walking through the door after school. I have spoken to school, who say she seems happy and confident and chatty in class. It's the after school bit that's creating a bigger problem. She's dances, but is fairly new to the dance school, so is working on friendships there too. Any advice would be helpful. I don't feel at 13, I don't think I should be ringing other parents to ask them to be her friend.

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Workinghardeveryday · 25/05/2021 12:16

I had this with one of mine, it’s heartbreaking as a mum because you are powerless.
Have you thought about inviting the other girls around to do something different? Hot tub party if your able, pamper girls night with film and pizza, ask a couple to go shopping on a weekend looking around the clothes shops then back to yours for pizza and stuff.
I don’t think speaking to the other mums will help really, 13 is getting too old for that as frustrating as it is.
Things will turn around though, it’s just getting through this time until it does.
Can she ask some of the girls from dance class to do any of the above?
I know they all involve money which is difficult sometimes, just suggested the hot tub idea because I remember mine at 13 loved hot tub parties x

Aduckandachick · 25/05/2021 23:08

Could you increase the out of school clubs so she’s busy after school? Martial arts club, cadets?

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