How do you know if your getting it all wrong?

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I get it is never a fun time.

I have a few awful days, feel.like i am getting somewhere then a few days later back to square one.

I am.a Lp, my best friend who was my go to died a year ago. I worry i am over controlling, but if i back off it all falls apart.

My ds has asd and adhd to complicate things further.

I don't have teenagers but didn't want to read and run so giving you a hand hold.

I'm pretty sure though that you're getting it right and it's just a nightmare time. They push boundaries and try for independence and sometimes it works and others don't.

I'm truly sorry about your friend, I dont know that phrase 'it gets easier' is true, but over time you do learn to cope better. You never stop missing them, but other things and other people come along and bring new connections into your life.

No idea. I feel like I am messing up teen parenting in a big way. I don’t have the relationship with them I want to, it’s never fun, and they seem to hate my guts.
What aspects are you particularly struggling with? I’m certainly not placed to offer sage advice but can talk things through?
For me it’s phone/PlayStation use, bedtimes and the fact that they hate each other and argue non stop.

Sorry about the loss of your friend, that must be really tough.

You just hope for the best. When I was growing up there wasnt much active parenting happening by this age, not for me, not for anyone i knew. You do what you can with what youve got, and hope they dont need too much therapy

Are there any support groups for parents near you OP?

Where I am we have a charity that runs sessions and groups for parents of children and teens with ADHD/ ASD. It can really help people just to talk things through and feel less alone.

Thank you for replies

I struggle with so many things.. other friends been allowed games, on x box late. My ds takes melatonin at night as it is.

I struggle with helping him to deal with comments from other kids

The fact if i leave the house he just eats his way through junk food..to the point none less.

Buggest issue though is last few weeks had issues with him been aggressive. His dad was abusive towards me. It triggers me and not sure if i am dealing with it appropruately. I come down on him like a ton of bricks

There was a support group in camhs but that folded.

You're not alone in finding this bit hard, and it sounds like your situation is pretty challenging. The fact that you're on here asking and you sound very caring and fair will stand you in good stead I think. Keeping lines of communication open, accepting bad times and not closing doors to better days coming and I'm sure you'll both make it through in tact.

Feeling pants too, just wanted to say you are not alone xx