Lack of friends - 13 year old

[Jackbrad13]

I’m struggling with what more I can do to help my 13 year old girl, she has recently fallen out with her set of friends (not a bad thing as one in particular is vile!), made new ones to sit with at school (altho finding it hard to have her voice heard) but struggling especially at weekends as not invited to anything and left out. There is only so many things you are happy to do with your mum and I really feel for her.
This has hit her confidence loads and her self esteem and she seems incredible lonely. She does ask people if they want to meet up but they are always - busy!
What more can I do to help her? Any suggestions would be appreciated.
We are on a list for a couple of anxiety related things at school.
Thanks

Hi I do sympathise, my 14 year old son has been abandoned by his old primary friends (who go to a different school) and although he has new friends at school, they never meet up. It is so hard seeing him sit in every weekend knowing his old mates are all out having fun.

Does she have any hobbies? Could you enroll her into something at the weekend, either sport, drama etc? It would get her out of the house and she might make new friends. or guides/venture scouts etc. Having said that, I offered all of this to DS and he just laughed ..said he is too old for all that and would rather stay in!

I think you are limited in being able to help at this age. You just need to encourage her to develop her new friendships at school and hopefully the social life will come with it in due course. Good luck, there are quite a few parents on here in the same boat.

I really feel for you as we are in exactly the same boat. My 13 year old daughter would like nothing more than to be out all weekend. I find it so hard.
If only we could get them together!

I had this trouble with my 14 year old son. We moved him the last year of primary school so had to make new friends and then to top it off went to a new secondary school would ask him many times if he was going out was always told no and played his phone or Xbox but now he is out more than in. I think you kinda have to leave it to them to find there own group off friends. I know its hard and you get the mum guilt as you just want to make friends for them..

In the same boat, new secondary school. New friends don't seem to go out. Age 12 funny age, he used to love playing out in primary school but no one seems to be playing out anymore. Shame as then its a lot of online gaming!