Not wanting to see dad

[charliebear78]

My young teen no longer wants to see his dad, he goes for an overnight stay twice a month.
He says he is bored and that dad doesn't spend any time with him,when they do talk dad is mainly bad mouthing my partner and sons step dad.
For various reasons son hasn't seen dad for about 5 months now and because he no longer wants to stay over he is ignoring all messages dad has sent.
I feel bad for them both in a way
I have tried to reason with son about going and maybe once he starts up again(no idea when this will be...)maybe we could just say for the day rather than overnight?
He obviously wants to be with friends and use his play station but these are not good enough reasons to ignore and not want to see his dad.
I am wary of too much information on here.
Dad has found my posts before many years ago and used them against me.
What would other parents do? Or has anyone been through similar?

Well, there comes a time when a child has the right to say no. Contact is supposed to be for the benefit of the child - realistically what benefit is your DS getting from seeing his father when all he gets is boredom and an earful of your DP being slated?

I'm not saying you should discourage contact, but maybe you should ask yourself whether you should be actively encouraging it at all if it brings no benefit to your DS.