Boy who assaulted my DD now going to the same college - what to do?

[Titsywoo]

I'm really stuck with what to do in this situation as it involves sensitive confidential information. So my DD was sexually assaulted at school 2 years ago. The boy was temporarily removed from school and spoken to by the police. Not much more was done but he went on to do the same to several of her friends (many of whom did not speak up at first) and one was bad enough that charges were pressed and the boy left the school (I presume he was expelled but everything was very much hushed up by the school so I can't be 100% sure). DD and her friends were all very affected by what happened (and how badly the school dealt with it) and they have all suffered with their mental health.

DD is currently sitting her GCSE assessments and has been excited about leaving her current school (that she has always struggled at) to go to a very good sixth form college a few miles away. We have just heard through a friend of hers who still has contact with this boy that he is going to be attending this college too.

DD is very upset as it brings up terrible anxieties for her and she is scared of this boy.

I have no idea what to do other than to contact the college as I assume this is a safeguarding issue for DD? But I don't have all the facts of what happened when he left her school, I have no idea who is the appropriate person to speak to or how to phrase what I need to say! I feel DD needs some reassurance now that this boy won't be in a class with her or in her form group but can I really start making demands when she hasn't even enrolled.

Any advice would be appreciated!

I’d find out who the safeguarding lead for the college is and ask to speak to them.

Can you speak to the safeguarding lead at her current school for advice? I appreciate they didn't do things well at the time, but they may be able to help (without giving away information on the boy and what happened to him).

I would also speak to the safeguarding officer at the college for advice - obviously neither have enrolled there yet, so hypothetical, but they must have experience of similar situations.

Thanks - I have looked it up and the safeguarding lead at the college is one of the deputy heads so I will get in touch with him. I'm not keen on talking to the school as they are desperate for kids to stay on at their sixth form and seem to be harrassing kids who are planning to go elsewhere which DD doesn't need right now as her MH is fragile (I spend last night calming her down from a panic attack until about 2am).

You definitely can approach the college. I had nowhere near the same situation with DD2, just a child who wasn't very pleasant to her. But I spoke to the school and they asked me to request in writing that they were kept separated. Now, in year 9, they have PE together but no other classes.

Thanks Lougle that is helpful