I really would appreciate some feedback from mums on here.
My daughter met a lovely boy while she was in school. She'd struggled with school since she started, especially peer relationships and this lad brought her so much stability. She was like a different person. They were both 14 years old (now 17) when they met and sadly broke up at the start of lockdown last year. I was shocked. As was my daughter. It was completely out of the blue and he finished with her by text. She literally broke into a million pieces. It took a lot of time, love and reassurance to get her through the next few months.
In August last year she met another lovely lad and they were really good friends with the possibility of it growing into more though she's really apprehensive about starting another relationship.
A few weeks ago, her first boyfriend got back in touch. This was after almost a year and said he wanted to speak with her. They've now decided to give it another go and I'm so beyond upset. Firstly because he hurt her so badly that first time, and secondly because she's dropped her friend completely who's been there for her for the last few months. I really feel she's set herself back around 365 days.
She's invited the first boy up to the house and try as I might, I am really struggling to engage with him. I'm being civil but previously I treated him like a son but now I just feel angry. Angry that she's opening herself up to him again. Angry that she's now dropped someone who cared for her very deeply.
I fear that my relationship with the first boy is impossible to mend and at the same time I know her friend is absolutely heartbroken.
I feel so down about it all and worry I'm not being supportive but I really don't want her to go through that heartache again and I so wish she'd ignored the message when she got it.
It just feels frustratingly hopeless.