My DD is 15 and has had mental health problems for around 3 years. She self harms and has attempted suicide 3 times, each time bad enough to need hospitalisation. She is a school refuser, her school are amazing and have tried everything but nothing works. We have had social services involved as well as CAMHS referrals and numerous GP visits. She is clearly in need of help but she just refused to engage with anybody. Won’t talk to CAMHS or social care, won’t go to counselling or therapy, won’t even talk to me much.
She has recently been dabbling in alcohol and illegal drugs, she doesn’t listen to a word I say and won’t follow any rules or boundaries.
We are just home after a week in hospital after her most recent suicide attempt where she went out and bought a bag of pills from a dealer, took them all and cut herself all over. Whilst in hospital I refused to take her home until I was offered proper help as I really don’t feel like I can keep her safe at home. After several meetings with the whole team involved (social care, camhs, hospital staff, safeguarding team and school,) we were eventually promised lots of support including home visits and the promise that they would try to find one person DD could connect with who would continue trying to engage her. After one home visit from CAMHS, DD told them that she hated them, would never speak to them and did not want any more visits, they agreed not to come again. Social care and school have also done home visits, DD refused to come out of her room and wouldn’t speak to any of them.
For 3 years I have been told that the only way she can be helped is if she engages but she just won’t, I’ve tried everything. Now after just a few days at home I can feel the support being lost again, and I am on my own. I’m a single parent with no family support and I just can’t cope on my own.
Has anyone here ever found a way to get someone to engage in services when they’ve been dead set against it? If I don’t do something soon she is going to die and I am terrified.