What can I do to help my dd. She has asd which is probably relevant to her mindset for the problem. I have posted about similar with her before.
She is embarrassed of our home. She was going to do a tiktok earlier but then decided that it looks too poor and small. She is always going on about this. How she thinks I should provide a better home. She either tells me to get a better job and miraculously work as a doctor or something similar. She then tells me to learn that job. Then she tells me I made a mistake marrying her dad my exh. Then she tells me I need to find a rich man to marry. I have explained why each of her demands are not going to be met and why. She then tells me I am a crap parent and should not have had children.
We have watched programmes about children in dire poverty in this country. She knows that while we do not have a lot, we are not in that situation.
I am divorced. The kids and I live in a two double bed ex council flat which I own. We live in a medium sized town. In an ok area. The block is mixed with council tenants and owner occupiers. The surrounding area is similar with houses on three sides and owner occupied houses on the other side. We used to live in a small house. She thought that was poor also and not good enough.
She has just stomped out of bed because she yelled and shrieked and swore at me about the loud boom boom music she can hear, she has sensitive ears. She is the only person in the flat who can hear this. I have suggested she uses her ear plugs or defenders or listens to music with earphones but she thinks she should not have to and I should call the police.
Really at my wits end with it. She is driving me nuts. Is there anything I can do to help her see it really is not that bad here or do I just have to grin and bear it and continue to give consequences for her rude outbursts when she swears at me.
She tells me she will be leaving home at 16 and finding somewhere better to live.
I held my tongue because what I wanted to say was good luck with that!