Body dysmorphia

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Hamnan84 · 12/04/2021 18:56

Hello all!
I have a question, I'm worried about my teen, she's 14.5yrs old and seems to have gone quiet lately and has been googling body dysmorphia. She has been trying to skip meals and won't wear her glasses as she says she looks ugly. We have had numerous chats about it all and I have tried to help her and listen etc but it's not improving. What is the best way to help her??? Anyone have any experience or ideas please?

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Christmasfairy2020 · 12/04/2021 19:40

Bless her. What is her weight like. Could you both join the gym.together and start a healthy eating plan? Rather than her skipping meals. X

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Hamnan84 · 12/04/2021 19:54

I go to the gym 3x a week and walk a lot she is quite lazy and yes in the last year she's put on weight. We have suggested so much to her, workouts at home, skipping, got her a skateboard loads of things to help. On the one hand she's lazy and doesn't want to do anything and loves to eat but then she feels bad about her weight and looks... We have tried so much but I don't know which way to go anymore

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Christmasfairy2020 · 12/04/2021 20:37

I'd maybe just say your lonely at the gym does she wanna come. Or take up lane swimming with her. It's hard init my 11 Yr old goes on about weight whilst sat eating Easter eggs

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Hamnan84 · 12/04/2021 21:13

Yes that's what she's like! Skipping lunch but then has a big dinner and wants chocolate! I think it's typical teen girl stuff but she's been googling body dysmorphia and says she feels ugly and fat. It's so hard to try help her because I'm not sure if it's normal teen stuff or more

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Seriouslymole · 14/04/2021 17:41

Can you talk about looking into contacts with her? I know it's only a small thing and does focus on "looks" but it might help her feel a bit better.

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Hamnan84 · 14/04/2021 19:47

@Seriouslymole

Can you talk about looking into contacts with her? I know it's only a small thing and does focus on "looks" but it might help her feel a bit better.

That's a good idea I bet she would love that thank you!

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BunnyRuddington · 14/04/2021 20:39

Trying to get her contacts is a very good idea, it's easy to forget how delicate their egos can be at this age.

I've got no experience of body dysmorphia but have seen this workbook for teens. Do you think she'd be willing to try it?

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