My 14 year old step daughter sat me and my partner down late last night and she cried and told us she had had sex for the first time. She said she used a condom and it was consensual. The boy is her current boyfriend she’s had for 1.5 years who we know and know his parents. We had sat her down and spoke to her before about pregnancy and safe sex and we hold a open and honest policy in our home and would prefer to know if she was being sexually active and feel comfort coming to us with any worries instead of keeping secrets and getting herself in a situation that won’t be easy to fix. We don’t know when the incident took place or where. When he is here they sit downstairs and hang out with us being able to see them . But we obviously can’t be with them when they aren’t in our home. They have only started meeting up again from last week after being in lock down so it has been recent. Any advice on how we should handle the next step? We know we need to sit and talk to her again about this today. But we don’t want to be hard on her as she has done as we asked and came to us for guidance and been honest. She had the boyfriend before she came to live with us and from family experience I knew we couldn’t force them to separate ways as that would of caused her to go behind our backs and as we all know if teenagers want to have sex they will find a way.
Can my partner take her for birth control at 14? Should we get her the plan b? How do we now regulate their relationship to keep her safe. So many questions. Any parenting advice welcome