Daughter nosying at my personal things

[Ladyof]

My daughter is 13 and I've discovered she is looking in my wardrobes and drawers when I am out. I went in her wardrobe for a cream she had and found a condom in there which I know was taken from our box which I'd hidden. I also had some personal items and DVDs hidden which I've know she had been looking at. I know because they were hidden behind something and when I went in it was all messy and box open etc so she has been having a right good rummage.

What do I do now? I dont know what she is doing in my personal space, or why. Do I confront her or leave it?

I would get a box you can lock

I used to do this as a teenager I think I was just curious. Saying that if I caught my daughter doing it I wouldn't be impressed 🤣

Have a chat with her but be kind and respectful. Ask her how she would feel if you looked through her belongings without permission. Ask her how she thinks you feel about her going through your possessions.

I think it is pretty common to be curious about adult things in your own home. I used to sneak into mum and dads room and look at the Joy of Sex book they had in their wardrobe 🤣. My niece used to do the same.

For things like condoms etc I would leave her too it, or maybe have a contraception chat and let her see one if she is curious, at 13 she will be aware of both how bodies operate, contraception and that her mum and dad have sex and it is healthy to be curious. They might have shown them condoms in school but she felt too embarrassed in that environment to look at them too much.

If the personal items and DVDs are very adult sex toys, porn or other inappropriate items I would invest in a locked box for now.

I did this all the time as a teenager. You're an adult with adult things and that's exciting!

Have a calm chat with her, explain your personal things are private, and you will respect her privacy if she has/gets personal items.

Tell her to respect your privacy, get a lockable box, and ask her why she took the condom. If she is thinking of having sex that is a separate issue to address.

Sounds like you both need a lockable box?

Flippin why would she need a lockable box? She had asked to use my body lotion and then a few days later it wasnt in my wardrobe so I went in her drawer to get it. I wasnt rummaging through her stuff I got the cream and saw the condom. But even if I had she is 13, she isnt going to have anything I'm interested in. What a strange comment.

Also she is not into boys at all so I dont think I need to worry about the condom being put to use.

Thanks for all your comments that say it is normal, I'm getting rid of the items now as they are very old and no longer used haha!