Parents buying booze

[novaparty12]

Just after opinions - is buying your 14 yr olds a vaper, the liquid to go in it and alcohol to drink down the beach acceptable.?? Parents apparently do this because they can't be bothered to argue. To me this is just lazy parenting. Am I right? Or is this normal??

I agree completely with you and am always surprised when I hear of parents buying alcohol for anyone who legally shouldn’t be drinking. But I’ve seen it done.

No its not normal. I've never told my son he can't drink. I just won't buy it for him. As it turns out he doesn't drink yet at 17 but he might change his mind. My friend practically encouraged hers to. Its sad.

I agree with you, I think it is so wrong. My DD, 15 turning 16 in a week says to me majority of her friends drink alcohol at home almost every day during holidays. My DD wanted to taste what it is like, so we allowed her to drink a glass of Prosecco on her 15th birthday, and she tried a beer on another occasion after that, could not even finish it but that is it.

I hate this p[art of growing up. I have put my foot down and said no way. I think my DD understands as she could easily have gone out and kept quiet about the alcohol and vaping but she does seem to tell me what is going on within her friendship circle which I am pleased about it and some of the insta stories she shows me are vile!! She just says it is so hard to meet her friends in the holidays as this is all they do. Covid has not helped because normally I am sure they would be at peoples houses, shopping cinema etc. I messaged one of the girls mums as I do know her quite well and she says 14 is the new 18 and her DD knows if she gets drunk or feels ill she will get no sympathy from her. I worry more about older lads and boys taking advantage of pissed 14 yrs old who have lost their inhibitions. I choose my battles and am quite lax over things like bedtimes and phone usage and she is really good at self regulating but if I allowed her to drink with her mates at 14 in a group I am certain that self regulation would definitely not happen.

Some of ds15's friends seem to drink more or less every time they go out and a group of the girls are regularly drunk with no apparent consequences from home - I just think they're making themselves so vulnerable and at that age their brains and bodies are still developing. So in answer to your question no, I wouldn't do that. Ds has had a drink or two when he's been out and we've let him have the odd cider at home or when we're on holiday but I wouldn't be providing alcohol for him.

At 14, no way would I be supplying!
I know DS had the odd drink from 15 at parties but def not even a weekly thing and I didn’t supply it. I was happy for him to have the odd cider or beer from 15 really - I wouldn’t be happy if he was drinking daily though.
I def wouldn’t buy vape stuff.

I kniw parents who do it the French way and allow kids a bit with dinner. Mine has been stealing my drink so i have hidden it.