Ungrateful teens

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Me, last week to dd 15. “Your brother (ds17) has said he doesn’t want a big Easter egg this year. Do you want one? I thought I’d get you something small and give you some money?”
Dd 15: “yes ok, sounds good”

Today, at 1:30 when she got up (!) I gave them a big Llindt Easter bunny and £20.
Dd: “why didn’t you get me an egg? You never buy us Easter eggs...”
Note: I have photographic evidence of them doing egg hunts in the garden every bloody year until this year.

Give. Me. Strength.

Lindt you say.

I’d be having that bastard.
I would. I’d have it ALL.

My pre-teens are the similar.
Actually we called at my mum's yesterday to pick up 22 Easter eggs ( 11each) from various family members/friends who had left them there for the dc.
They could barely muster a smile.
I still feel a mixture of anger/sadness and also a sense of shame that I've managed to raise such horrible ungrateful kids.

Ungrateful brats "Never" is their favourite word though; see also "you're never nice to me" and "you never do anything for me".

Hopefully you have lots of Easter egg chocolate you can crack into, the sugar soothes the pain!

My three teens didn't get any eggs at all from me as for the first time ever I didn't buy them early. They sold out. I apologised to them and you know what they said? "That's fine mum, you ARE still doing a roast dinner though aren't you?".

I'm doing a roast dinner with bread sauce (usually that's a guarantee DS will come home but today he's working)

15yo DD woke me up, and obviously expected an Easter breakfast together. I'd warned her there wouldn't be an egg hunt because nobody bothered to look for eggs last year. She does have several big eggs from family though, and is having a nap on the trampoline.

I haven't fallen over myself doing Easter this year. Weirdly I think teens expect you to do the traditional stuff even if they're really dismissive off it. Maybe next year I'll drag DD to mass before she's allowed any chocolate. Haha!

My dd 31 got her usual amount of eggs.
Ime dc don't always admit they still want to be dc...
Dd31 is currently awaiting a shot on our new trampoline.
Yabu to have even bothered to ask.

*dd buys as many eggs as she receives!! She is a well mannered big dc!!

My teens help us plan Easter eggs like a military operation (I buy us one each, dh buys us one each, and then they buy each other one and us one). Then Dd1 makes a chart specifying who has chosen which egg. Then grandma gives us a box of creme eggs and we snaffle these before Easter Sunday (grandma may stop doing this now she has seen how many eggs we have!) However they are grateful and charming and have just helped us host grandparents being funny and interesting and chatty and helping with the preparation and the clearing up. Love them.

It's really sad when they're ungrateful, but hopefully just a phase. I see why some tribes would send their adolescents away for a while, to return when they were nice again (or something like that).

We often talk about past holidays /Xmas etc. I remember them being frankly little shits.. Once threatened to send 2 x ds's home on a train from a day out at the zoo!! And really did send a teen ds on a plane home from a holiday.. Strangely when reminiscing dc always say they had great times... They always remember gej good food and games we do. Never the nagging it seems!!

Ah yes, silly of me. I see it is completely my mistake. On the surface they seem so grown up don’t they, but then Easter/Christmas etc rears it’s ugly head, and there’s stockings/Easter eggs... my very dear mum who died last year still gave me (at 55!) little chocolate presents - I should have known I wasn’t going to get away with it so soon.

Very happy Easter to you all - I hope you’ve had a lovely day with your teens and that they (secretly) appreciate you

Just had a little Bbq. Teens and adult dc are all on the trampoline!!
31, 26, 19 and 17!!

I didn't set up a hunt this year for when my DS woke up as he is now 13. He actually forgot it was Easter Sunday too! However, when I asked him if he just wanted the chocolate or the hunt first, he opted straight away for the hunt and then merrily hunted round the garden for them. I was secretly very pleased!!

Well you know what to get next Easter- nothing.

My DS made me laugh - he is 19 and back home from 1st year at uni. He was telling me with animation and excitement that his uni (campus) had laid on an Easter egg hunt. You had to look through the grounds for plastic eggs and could exchange them for a chocolate one. The plastic egg he found had a chick inside which meant a bigger chocolate egg. He and his flat mates has spent a happy afternoon doing this (boys and girls, 18/19)

DD16 has had the proper grumps today, mixed with brief spells of gratitude. Didn't want to do the Easter egg hunt with her younger brother and then completed it with the enthusiasm of a 5 year old. She was sad last week about not seeing her DGP since September and she misses them, so today we sat socially distanced in their garden for an hour. She was so excited about going and then barely said two words when there and has been in a grump since being home. We've even had the takeaway she wanted and she's stomped off upstairs in a mood over that. Sigh. We don't normally cave to her wishes but today we have and I wish we hadn't. She usually lovely but dear god.....

@TawnyPippit

My DS made me laugh - he is 19 and back home from 1st year at uni. He was telling me with animation and excitement that his uni (campus) had laid on an Easter egg hunt. You had to look through the grounds for plastic eggs and could exchange them for a chocolate one. The plastic egg he found had a chick inside which meant a bigger chocolate egg. He and his flat mates has spent a happy afternoon doing this (boys and girls, 18/19)

Aw, that's kind of cute!

My teens (13 and 15) just seem to get more bratty and ungrateful by the day. It occurred to me that it's like having a newborn again, when you pour in all your time and effort and love but get nothing back. Except you feel a bit more inclined to forgive a newborn for never saying thank you.

I'm really struggling with having teens, alternating between being astounded that they can be such shitty human beings, and then realising that I raised them, so if they're shitty human beings it's my fault.

Apparently most teens and parents survive this stage and still love and appreciate each other on the other side. I hope this is true.

Well 15 yo DS who is normally fairly surly was surprised and grateful to get an Easter egg from me this lunchtime (when he got up).

Not sure why he was surprised, because I do always buy him one. But he said thanks and was appreciative (and has eaten the whole lot). We've never done egg hunts and they've never had multiple eggs.

Maybe some kids get too much?

My 16 year old was very dismayed today when her gran told her maybe she was too old for Easter egg hunts from next year. She said she will never be too old to go Easter egg hunting in her grandmas garden!

Help them make the most of lovely grandparents - before you know it they’ve gone. I was incredibly lucky and had my grandpa until I was 42, my kids had lost all of their grandparents by the age of 15.

@Fifipop185 you’ve perfectly described that almost bipolar attitude of some teens, despite themselves.

@AnnieLobeseder no that’s not our fault, that’s their peer group, or nature, or summat... we ground them, and give them love, and are the reason they turn into butterflies in the end...

I got told off for planting eggs in 12 year old dds room for a hunt...she no longer wants to do hunts....😭

@AnnieLobeseder if they're shitty human beings it's my fault.

My DC are all shitty at times in very different ways - and although DH and I sometimes lament that we've created a dick head monster, it can't just be down to parenting if they're all so different.

@Chocolateismakingmefat my two are the same. They will talk about days out etc we have had saying what fun they were, clearly forgetting the part of the day where their behaviour was so horrific I sat down and cried, or when we left early.