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hello
my son is 13 he is bisexual and he has told me this from a young age and I’m completely fine with this. A few weeks ago I started to see notifications on his phone from someone with a boy name that I haven’t heard him mention before but thought just leave it which I did for 3 weeks. Today when he was in and his phone went off so I checked it and when I read the chats with the boy is was horrified. This lad was 14 and my son is 13 for 3 weeks they have been sending eachother picture of themselves with no top or trousers on in there boxers and the messages were very sexual taking about sending inappropriate nudes and penis size ect.
Has anyone been through something similar and do u have any advice for me on the situation do I reprimand him or let him be I DONT KNOW HELP

I don't have teenagers but bisexual / straight / gay, it doesn't matter, they're both underage and as such, it's inappropriate behaviour. I would definitely speak to him about why there is an age of consent and also the dangers of sharing intimate images online, especially given the fact they're both minors. I'm sure more experienced mums will have better advice but my instinct would be to have a very frank and open discussion on why it's inappropriate and then I'd be looking to monitor messages etc... moving forward. There are also some really clever child protection stuff you can do on various apps where messages with certain content (sexual words etc...) can be blocked and even nude images (they can detect skin tone so can tell when too much skin is showing in an image, it gets blocked). I'd be looking into making his device as safe as possible.

what adults see as being inappropriate is normal to us due to teens growing up so fast nowadays. However i would try to as him about the guy or who he's texting as he's a year older you don't want your son being taken advantage of. But if that doesn't work just be straight up with him and tell him but don't get mad at him as that will make him feel worthless and ashamed but just let him know that you're there for him. Be as open as possible with him about it and just make sure that he actually knows the guy in real life as worst case possible he couldn't and he could be getting catfished. But just make sure he knows you're there for him. -14 yr old girl

Also don't expect him not to be annoyed as he will think that you've been snooping through his things and he will feel embarrassed. And at first he may not want to talk to you about it as he's probably thinking that he can have no privacy but he should slowly begin to talk to you about it or be willing to talk about it. AND HAVE A 1 TO 1 CONVO DONT GET ANYONE ELSE INVOLVED!!!! Trust me

This is the most bizarre post. Have you never spoken to him about using his phone appropriately and embarking on new relationships?

Just to check, im guessing youre his mother?

If so, id recommend getting his father to talk to him...a mother talking to her aon about this topic seems a bit awkward / cringe.

@HypnoRuler

Just to check, im guessing youre his mother?

If so, id recommend getting his father to talk to him...a mother talking to her aon about this topic seems a bit awkward / cringe.

And it just gets more bizarre