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Teenagers

Parenting teenagers has its ups and downs. Get advice from Mumsnetters here.

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Teen condoms

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pinkyboots1 · 14/03/2021 08:45

DD is 16 and in her first serious relationship and she's told me it is likely to be moving into the next step in the future (at least she's being honest about stuff) we've had lots of very open talks about love, sex, contraception and respect so I know she's thought about how she wants to move forward. She's thinking the contraceptive injection would be best for her as she's got a poor memory and struggles with tablets. She knows that she needs condoms too ... would it be weird if I buy them for her ( her older gay brother got his own before I got them for him) and what would you suggest... Her Dad (my ex) is of the idea that if she's old enough to want sex she's old enough to get her own 🙄 I'd rather be proactive but don't want her thinking that I'm pushing her into a sexual relationship... sorry it's a long post

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DinosaurDiana · 14/03/2021 08:48

If you ask at the GP surgery they should give you some for free.
I have got them from the GP and bought them for my DC.
It’s not weird, it’s educating and protecting them.

DinosaurDiana · 14/03/2021 08:49

And I made up a little mantra for them - if it’s not got one on it’s not going in 😱🤣🤣🤣

SleepySlugs · 14/03/2021 08:50

Why don't you ask her? If she's open about it you could say, "You'll need some condoms for the next step, are you buying then or would you like me to get some?"

onyourway · 14/03/2021 08:51

Just buy them and leave them in the bathroom cupboard. No need to discuss with your ex.

DinosaurDiana · 14/03/2021 08:51

Injection or rod Is good as the pill can fail if you are sick/diarrhoea.
She’s just got to remember to renew them on time.

activitythree · 14/03/2021 08:52

Her Dad (my ex) is of the idea that if she's old enough to want sex she's old enough to get her own 🙄

Does he apply this to everything in life?

I'm old enough to buy everything on sale in the UK, but sometimes DH does the shopping.

Buying condoms is no different to buy a loaf of bread or a packet of paracetamol.

Toilenstripes · 14/03/2021 08:53

@DinosaurDiana

And I made up a little mantra for them - if it’s not got one on it’s not going in 😱🤣🤣🤣

No glove, no love!

Badabingbadabum · 14/03/2021 08:55

I think many of us wish our mothers were like this. Perhaps get a box to keep in tge bathroom and let her know there are there if she needs them but let her know that she can get them for free by herself from sexual health clinics or her GP. It sounds like you have a very sensible dd but I do think that a part of growing up is taking responsibility for more parts of your life - in this case getting supplies of condoms!

ODFOx · 14/03/2021 09:35

When she goes to see the practice nurse they'll give her some condoms and (probably) a card which she can take to a variety of places and chemists to get free condoms.

Be aware though that new implants and depot injections aren't being done everywhere due to limiting procedures being done in the community. My DD wanted implant or injection but has ended up with weekly patches as an interim measure ( though they are very convenient and easy to use to be fair).

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pinkyboots1 · 14/03/2021 12:57

Thanks for all the advice.. I'll ask her if she wants to come to the shop with me and get her to choose some ... I think it's a great idea to just have a 'stash' in the bathroom.
Yes my ex is a twit who would probably use the same theory on everything. I don't share info with him for that reason.

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dementedpixie · 14/03/2021 13:01

I'm not sure the depo injection is the best option for that age as it can affect bone density. It can affect fertility returning too (although that wouldn't be such an issue given her age!)

Midlifephoenix · 14/03/2021 13:03

OK are you guys aware that most kids would die of embarrassment to walk in to a chemist with those vouchers? Let alone go in to one with her mother to choose? I don't care how close you are.
My son bought some on Amazon amd sold them at school - when I asked why they just didn't get the free ones he said the kids were too embarrassed. Now at 17 they may not be, but they were then.
Just buy some, tell her they are in the cupboard whenever she needs them.

DinosaurDiana · 14/03/2021 13:55

I used to stick them in the drawer under their beds.

peaches99 · 16/03/2021 15:11

When I became aware that DD1 was sexually active,, I filled a large decorative glass jar with lots and lots of different ones, and just left the jar in the bathroom so she could pick and choose.
She told me years later that she kept most of her friends supplied as well. I can remember thinking that they were going down at an alarming rate

Andi2020 · 16/03/2021 23:16

Can her bf get them
I bought an emergency packet for my dd and let her keep them in her own room
As far as I know her bf ( or his mum buys them) always has his own.
She also has an implant.
It good that mums and teenagers can talk about this because when I was a teenager my mum never spoke about it.

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pinkyboots1 · 17/03/2021 15:02

@Andi2020 Her BF can get them but I'd rather make sure she has her own supplies so that as and when she decides to 'go further' she's totally prepared and there's no chance of each of them thinking the other will 'be prepared'

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Andi2020 · 17/03/2021 18:19

@pinkyboots1 yes I understand that is why I gave my dd a packet to keep in her room.
It's good to be open.

Christmasfairy2020 · 18/03/2021 20:47

Shes prob already at it tbh.

Bluecomfort · 18/03/2021 20:50

@Christmasfairy2020

Shes prob already at it tbh.

She’s told her mum she’s going to have sex, told her she needs condoms and has discussed other contraceptions. Why would she need to lie

QuidditchQueen · 18/03/2021 21:03

Why would you fo the buying?
My sons had money and purchased their clothes/toiletries/other stuff.

NCTDN · 18/03/2021 22:34

@peaches99

When I became aware that DD1 was sexually active,, I filled a large decorative glass jar with lots and lots of different ones, and just left the jar in the bathroom so she could pick and choose. She told me years later that she kept most of her friends supplied as well. I can remember thinking that they were going down at an alarming rate

Like an ornament or decoration?

Alternista · 18/03/2021 22:47

I’d just buy her a box and say if she wants to choose any others to go for it but you know it’s all new and embarrassing so here you go for starters etc.

BritBoy · 05/04/2021 16:42

@pinkyboots1

To be fair, her Father is right. She should know to get them herself if she wants to have sex. But you can never be too careful. At least if you get them for her then you know she's definitely got some

Passthecake30 · 05/04/2021 16:49

I think I’d just get some if I were you tbh. I have ds and dd preteens 18months apart and when their time comes I’ll just leave a stash in the toiletries cupboard.

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