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Parenting teenagers has its ups and downs. Get advice from Mumsnetters here.

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I really dislike my teenage son right now to the point...

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Meltinthemiddle · 13/03/2021 17:17

I can't wait for him to move out. He's out all day and night and doesn't let me know where he is. He stays up all night, doesn't eat properly. He's never home on time which is 9.30 weekdays and 10.30 weekends. Last night I had to go collect him at 11. 30 when he eventually replied to my texts as I didn't want him walking the streets alone. He's rude and angry all the time and punches doors, slams furniture when he's frustrated. He's smoking and vaping (caught him vaping in his room). He's just horrible and so disrespectful. I've tried so much with him and last night he blatantly didn't answer my calls or texts so he could stay out later. He has no interest in school just his mates and girlfriend. Im so worried about him and frustrated that's he's making some stupid choices and causing rows between me and dh.

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Meltinthemiddle · 13/03/2021 17:21

I'm just fed up worrying about him. And when he's home he's horrible so can't wait for him to leave again and then worry where he is or what time he will be home when he does.

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toffeebutterpopcorn · 13/03/2021 17:24

How old is he? Is dad around?

KarmaNoMore · 13/03/2021 17:25

How old is he? That’s the big question

JustDanceAddict · 13/03/2021 17:42

I was going to ask age too.

willibald · 13/03/2021 17:44

How old is he? Is his dad around?

yeOldeTrout · 13/03/2021 17:53

It's Nature's Way.

Bunnybigears · 13/03/2021 17:55

Teenage could be anything between 13 and 19 we really need more information.

blowinahoolie · 13/03/2021 18:03

Aren't they wee cherubs?🙄 I have one that has an answer for everything 😂

PiersMorganBigMLittleOrgan · 13/03/2021 18:04

@yeOldeTrout

It's Nature's Way.
Punching doors is nature’s way?

Fuck me....

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Meltinthemiddle · 13/03/2021 18:22

16 and yes his dad about and its really difficult trying to keep a clam house. Dh attitude is old school and to lock the doors if he don't come on time without letting know. He was always highly strung as a baby, toddler and just difficult 😔

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Meltinthemiddle · 13/03/2021 18:24

Sorry trying to type whilst dog jumping on my lap. Thank god she's keeping me sane right now 😌

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Elieza · 13/03/2021 18:34

A 9.30 curfew for a 16 year old seems quite early. No wonder he’s angry. I wonder what else is happening that you think is reasonable and he doesn’t?

Wannabangbang · 13/03/2021 18:44

There's a lockdown why is he even out, and who with. I would call the police if he keeps going walk about all that mixing and his rotten attitude. He's not even allowed to be meeting friends, must be difficult having an unruly teenager during these times. I would reward decent behaviour and not reward the bad. Turn the Internet off etc, don't make his dinner etc make him do his own washing.

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Meltinthemiddle · 13/03/2021 18:54

9.30 is during the week! This is also because we have work/school next day so I want to ensure he's home so I can go to bed myself and not be sat up worrying. 10.30 is at the weekend and this is so we can a pick him up if he needs it as I worry about him walking alone so late. But as mentioned he shouldnt even be going out.

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FedNlanders · 13/03/2021 18:58

I think 9.30 on a school week is fine. I have a 16yr old too x

Wannabangbang · 13/03/2021 18:58

Maybe let dad deal with it ie keeping him indoors, it's not fair on you or anyone in yourself he's behaving so selfishly. What if you all get covid, think he needs some tough love. Once lockdown is over start allowing him a curfew but for now he needs to stay home. Who is he meeting and where is he at these hours, its cold out and if caught in a group he will be fined ie you will be fined.

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Meltinthemiddle · 13/03/2021 19:52

I've had to let him go out. Dh tried keeping him in and ds got aggressive and started smashing things.. Things became heated so I told dh to let him go. It's difficult to impose anything with a 16 year old who thinks they are grown up and can do what they want. He's literally changed so much and has no respect for the house rules or any of us. If we take anything off him he walks out and doesn't respond so I'm then left worrying. One night he didn't even come home and stayed with a friends without telling us. He thinks if we kick him out (won't ever happen) he will have his own place to live or stay in Foster care where he can do what he wants.

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mummytroubles · 14/03/2021 14:16

Sounds like your son has some troubles maybe outside the family. I have experienced this with my oldest, and is almost all the time something to do with friends, relationships, bullies etc. have you tried talking to him? 16 is a difficult age and the pressures of society are probably getting to him. he also may be sick of being at home with the family, due to lockdown. him meeting up and staying out is his only other outlet. I would recommend a family discussion (sounds cliché but works) and if he is still not opening up perhaps go as far as more forceful measures, something is definitely up. hope this helps xx

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