Washing her own pots

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My dd 15 has been taking dinner plates, bowls and glasses up to her room. She is refusing to wash them unless we buy her paper plates to eat from so that she doesn’t have to wash her pots! I’ve refused to buy them, it’s just laziness so she’s now refusing to wash the pots that are piling up in her room. I would value over mn opinions on this situation.

I suggest illustrating to her very clearly who makes the rules in your home, and it sure as hell isn't her. Don't stand for this disrespect for a single minute.

Remove everything bought by you. Including the plates. Explain that she can do as she wishes with her things and can buy papa we plates. But it won't be used with your food, she'll need to provide that too.

Your house = your rules. Paper plates are terrible for the environment and why should you spend your money on them. She needs to bring the plates and cutlery out of her room and wash them

What Aquamarine said.
15 year olds don't get to act like that with no consequences.

The first mistake is to allow eating in her room.
From now on all meals to be eaten in the kitchen/dining room until she learns to clean her own items.
If she manages that step then you could allow her to have snacks in her room etc.

'I'm not asking you, I'm telling you'.

Raised eyebrow & serious tone of voice.

Honestly, just get her told!

Thank you for your replies. Up until getting a boyfriend 6 months ago she has always been lovely and very well behaved. She has changed so much and is manipulating me. It feels like she’s using and abusing me. I shall take all your points on board.

I wouldn't be dictated to by a teenager. Who doesn't contribute. Tell her until she starts to do what normal people living in a house do like bring their own plates into the kitchen etc you will treat her like a child. No money for clothes or treats etc Tell her this is easy for her to turn around- bring your stuff down and treat the house with respect.