Staying over - same room?!

[BaffledMum123]

Ignoring COVID (I'm preparing for when this is allowed)... my ds is 17 and wants his new-ish 17yo girlfriend to stay over and stay in his room (once it's Covid-allowed). What do you think? Separate rooms?

Interested in different perspectives... (my Ex thinks it's safer at home, my partner is much more conservative, thinks separate rooms).

I'd make up the spare bed but turn a blind eye (ear?) to any creeping around. Make sure contraception is sorted.

I would let them decide for themselves.
At least he asked and didn't sneak her in.
Has she been around your house already.
I let my dd17 and her bf share a room and his parents allow them also.
Relatively new relationship also
Just buy condoms tell him where they are.

@babyyodaxmas and @Andi2020 belated thanks for your replies - I'll make up a room, which she can ignore, but at least she'll know she has that choice. I asked ds if I should buy condoms, he was mortified, and implied there was no need for me to be asking! I should probably ask him again...

How new? 4 weeks? 4 months?

Don't ask, just buy a box of twelve and leave them with him.

If she’s local no need to stay. If not local separate rooms and turn a blind eye. My 18 year old has been with his girlfriend for 3 years. He has stayed at her twice and she has stayed here once. There’s no need for regular sleepovers when they’re still dependents. I’ve got enough going on on my house without a regular house guest

Hey OP,

My mum was fine with me staying over at my boyfriends house when I was 17, he was 18 but it took her a bit of time before she was comfortable with him staying at ours. I always kept my bedroom door open as my dog was blind so when the time came that my then boyfriend stayed over, there wasn't anything for my mum to worry about because my door was always open - we didn't have a spare bedroom.

If you're worried about them having sex, provided there is contraception used, I wouldn't be worried. Honestly I'd be more worried if they were out all the time - I don't know how many friends of mines in my teens would be out and about in the cars of boys who they were seeing and they would sleep together in said cars because neither parents would allow sleep overs.

As my children get closer to this stage I am much less easy going about this than I thought I would be! I think the blind eye policy is best. Its not so much actually having sex its getting into a serious relationship too young.

Safe consensual sex and dating - fine
Becoming stereotype of an old married couple who spend most of their time in a pair - not fine.

My first boyfriend had no spare rooms in his house so he had to sleep on his bedroom floor when I stayed over 😂🤣. Not that much sleeping.....