Dd14 verbally abusive to me

[Whitsends]

Sometimes physically as well. How should I handle being told to fuck of and called names. She's not living with me at the moment because of her behaviour. ExH does nothing about her behaviour except blame me. I'm walking on eggshells all the time in fear of saying the wrong thing or her not wanting to come home in the end. She's refused counselling, healthy young minds aren't interested and I'm at a loss as to how to help her. It's breaking my heart and her younger siblings both miss her but find life better without her here. I feel like I've lost her completely.

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No experience at all sorry but I do feel for you.

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Providing there no underlying issues, I would try to get to the bottom of why it has got so bad. I would start by reading a couple of teen books, How to listen so teens talk and talk so teens listen. You need to work out why she is feeling so angry and resentful and work on building up trust and respect again. Does she feel you don't like her? Is she hurting about something and lashing out? Is she spoken to like that by people in her life and therefore copying ways of communication? You can turn this around but all communication needs to be respectful and she needs to be reminded to do the same.