Teen style changes

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I am hoping to hear from some parents of older teens/young adults.

Did your teen's style, interests/hobbies/obsessions change much between the age of 13 and say 18?

My Dc aged 13 is determined to have an extreme hair cut, follows rather cult type fashions and in my opinion is easily led especially social media 'rabbit holes'.

My interests altered throughout teen/young adulthood... A whole range of styles and stuff but this didn't start until maybe 16 so later. I am very boring and normal now.

Anyone have personal, more up to date experiences with how teen trends wax and wane?

Thanks :)

well, yes and no.

I have 3 aged 13, 15 and 18.
The 18 year old is still very recognisable as the person he was at 13, and still likes some of the same things, but he laughs at some of his 12 year old self. He sometimes makes comments about his 13 year old sister and I have to remind him that he wasn't so different!

15 year old has had a difficult journey, she came out as gay aged 13 and now is non binary. She is still the same person, but has matured, calmed down, and is now able to see things from the other side. She has always had quirky interests, but these seem to be settling into more sensible versions of themselves (if that makes sense).

13 year old is like yours, and I spend a LOT of time saying to myself - she will grow up.....

Thank you so much for the reply and your experiences.

My DC is 13 and has so far told me... In a very dramatic manner.... They are non binary.... 3 months later they are gay.... 3 months later they are not gay but trans.... Now I'm not sure where the road leads... I think that different 'hats' are being put on to see what fits..... But at the moment the more traditional ideas are WAY too boring to be considered.

DD is just coming up to 16. Around 12/13 she was in her words emo, she wore a lot of black, lots of black eyeliner and was into lots of emo bands.

Her style has completely changed, she pays a lot of attention to how she looks, she loves make up, fake tan, fake eyelashes. She's blessed with beautiful hair and styles it well, she buys very on trend clothes and in short is unrecognisable from the girl she was a few years ago.

She has a fabulous eclectic taste in music, her playlists have such a mix from 60's onwards.

It will be interesting to see how it pans out for her sister who is starting secondary in September.

Thanks uncomfortablesilence... Very interesting :)

your 13 yo sounds like mine.
We've been through
bi
asexual
demi girl
now she is saying she is trans, but loves dresses, make up and jewellery. Her pintrest is full of clothing, including prom dresses and prom suits.

I have had a couple of long serious conversations with her.
Basically, I have told her that if she is trans we will of course always support her (depsite my own reservations) but that 80% of girls who identity at 13 do not feel that way at 20. So we want to keep all the doors open and not let her go down a road where she is going to feel she can't come back. On that basis, we will not be using he/him pronouns, but happy to use the new nickna,e she prefers.
We also talked about finding a group that you feel comfortable with. It is important to understand that the teen trans/LGBT groups online are veyr accepting, something they may not be feeling in real life.
We atlked about how my generation might have dressed/identified with goths or punk, but by age 20 we had moved on, and that maybe some of this is similar.
She was also getting very anxious etc so we have found her a counsellor, who agrees with this wait and see approach.

Counsellor has been really helpful.
We are also in the process of getting her assessed for ASD. He social skills have always been very poor.