Advice needed teenager break up

[Sadless]

My son and his girlfriend are arguing constantly and in last week few weeks they have meeting up for 1 hour a day but says she cared be bothered to.
He seems heartbroken I have told him to stop messaging her but think he still is.
Don't know what to say to him they have been together 18 months and it's not been easy for them.

Any advice

Sal

So hard to know what to do

What are are they?

I don’t think you can do much really

Erm, honestly, I think you should stay out of it. Not saying that to be snarky, but they need to deal with some stuff for themselves.

I meant: what age are they?

Both 16 he said last night that they had decided to call it quits. He said she was being horrible and has set rules if they speak on text.
I think he wants advice but don't know what to say.

Rather than advice, OP, can you just listen to him talking about it, and ask questions that might help him to reach his own conclusions?

When DS1 got his heart broken I love bombed him for three days. Made his favourite food, bought him cozy clothes, ran him baths, watched comedy TV with him. By the end of those three days he was able to cope with feeling so sad. I didn't bitch about his beloved in case they got back together but did chat a little bit about him deserving someone who he got on really well with, who felt the same as him, and how he'd be off to uni etc etc. Just gentle nudges that the world is wide and his life is long and will be full of even more gorgeous romances over time.

Suppose I could he knows things have changed between them. He ended up in hospital last week and he said she didn't seem to care. But the drs think he's having panic attacks and I think it might be to do with this problem.

Sal

I have just spoken to him he says he hasn't spoken to her. I will let him tell me stuff when he wants to.

Thanks

Yes, let him talk

These are the hardest bits of parenting where you want to jump in and sort their heart aches

But probably best to watch from the side and just be there for him to talk to, if he wants to

@BrideofBideford

Yes, let him talk

These are the hardest bits of parenting where you want to jump in and sort their heart aches

But probably best to watch from the side and just be there for him to talk to, if he wants to

This is true. Absolutely the hardest part of parenting is standing to one side while they sort out their broken hearts an dfriends who let them down etc. I so want to jump in and reorganise the world in their favour bit it doesn't work like that.

He has spoken to her tonight and they just argued. He's changed his Facebook and Instagram profile as well. Think hes gutted because he still likes her but it's not the same back

Sal

It is hard for them at that age.
Is he in a big friend group with others to talk too sometimes their friends are better help to them than parents.
She sounds bit mean