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Struggling with my 14yr old DD

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MyLifeNow20 · 17/02/2021 21:29

Have an18 yr old 14yr old and 6 yr old. I am on my own and her dad lives in USA and not seen her for 18 months. I have no support from him.
She has a boyfriend and is besotted with him. She would always go to his house, he has only been here once.
She takes a lot of things for granted and doesnt say thank you, she also has a lot of attitude which is getting to me.
I brought her all new bedding, lamp shade, light, cushions etc for her room today while she was walking with her boyfriend. She got home, went to her room and said nothing. I was upset. I went uostairs and stood there with her looking at me, well, I said......
She then said thanks in her sarcastic horrible tone she uses, although she doesnt think its sarcastic.
We ended up having a row and shes told me she doesnt want to be here ans wants to live at her boyfriends house. I told her she is 14 and I am the adult in charge. I do wonder what happens in the boyfriends house to make her always want to go there.
I feel like I try so hard with her but also walking on egg shells. My 18yr old has self harmed in the past which im worried about
Does anyone have any advice please

OP posts:
Horehound · 17/02/2021 21:42

How old is the boyfriend?

MyLifeNow20 · 17/02/2021 21:43

15

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Horehound · 18/02/2021 08:52

I think you're going to have to get tough. Set a rule she can only go to his once a week and he can come to you once a week. Increase maybe over holidays based on good behaviour and if she doesn't like it, she won't be seeing him at all! I'd deffo not let her stay over if she is 14.
You did a nice thing for her and she spoke to you like shit. I remember being like this and my mum putting me on my place. Gave me some home truths.

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