Lazy 13 yo at home

[Nicknamegoeshere]

My eldest is being ridiculous. I share parenting 50/50 with my ex-husband. I have two other kids age 10 and 7 months (baby with fiancé). My eldest says that it is my job as a parent to prepare all of his meals and bring him tea while he is working from home. It's what happens at his dad's (his dad's gf waits on them all hand and foot as that's "her job."
AIBU here?

At 13, I thought the courts took into account what a child and- does he want to go and spend more time with his dad? I wouldn't necessarily go to court over this- as they will give it to him if it's why your son wants. I am so, so sorry that you're in this situation- but equally- your son knows better, he has seen better, and he is also making (young) choices. This isnt you or your fault. Your son does know how to behave- he sees it at home with you, and at school. All you can do is keep the door open, tell him you love him, and there is always a place with you for him. If he chooses to go and live with his dad- there's a 50/50 chance it works out or it doesn't- but you also deserve not to be abused in your own home.

@SD1978 My son is saying he wants to be with dad ft and never wants to see me again. This is because my ex is using him as a weapon and alienating him from me.
My son is speaking out of fear.
Ex wants so I just see them EOW. It would destroy anything left of the relationship I have left with him.

@Nicknamegoeshere - yes. Very possibly. I don't disagree. But he will most likely be awarded that in court due to your sons age and his desire to go there. Is it best for him? Absolutely not. Will it be the best thing for him? Absolutely not. However keeping communication open and him knowing that he has a home to come back to when it goes wrong- and a parent who loves him enough to have rules- that's all you can do sometimes. It's always the risk and fear in a seperate relationship where one parent is more permissive, with less rules, that as teenagers kids will reckon it's a better bet, but I also don't believe you should ever adjust your principles because of it or the fear of it. All you (we) can hope for is that see the mistake and due to j owing they are loved, also know they haven't trapped themselves by leaving and can come back.