Moody Teenage Girl

[Johnboy73]

Hi
My now 13 yo daughter has come to live with me. Her mum was having trouble with her and I'm struggling with the moods and attitude. Any advice appreciated.

Pick your battles with the attitude and give her space with the moods. Do you have a car? Sometimes going for a drive and talking not face to face is easier for teenagers. Being able to talk about the small things can lead to it being easier to talk about big things.

Ask her nicely with a Starbucks franchino cookies and cream whats up whats worrying her.

Also get her a smart TV and a bike and go out for daily walks

Don't take anything personally.
Allow her to have moods. At some point in the future you may find a moment to let her know that her moods have an impact on others, but for the moment, just acceot them and dont try to fix, or change.
Assume the best motives from and try not to judge. Its not easy being 13.

You are a kind person.

Take a look on Amazon for books on teens/teen girls and get a couple. Also one on stepparenting if that’s new. Will give you confidence.

Find something you can do together to bond. Even if that's just a TV show together. You need to keep the lines of communication open and that will help.

Laugh together whenever you can.

Give her space.

Read How to talk so teens will listen.

Go to Starbucks Drive through together, get coffee and chat on the drive.

Go to Starbucks Drive through together, get coffee and chat on the drive. Agree that driving can help you to talk, this is an excellent suggestion.

How was she before she came to live with you when you did see her? I'm assuming you had her for some of the time anyway?

You are a kind person. Take a look on Amazon for books on teens/teen girls and get a couple. Also one on stepparenting if that’s new. Will give you confidence

Isn't this a post from the Dad? Think that makes him a patent rather than a kind person for taking her in?

I would really recommend listening to Lisa D’Amour podcasts - specialising in teenage girls. Also echo that driving advice! Dd opens up on the way to school!