18yr old going out

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Ds has just casually informed me he's going out to meet friends. He's not being clear about where exactly they're meeting but it is indoors, rather than outside.
There is history with this group of friends which makes me nervous when he socialises with them (under normal circumstances, never mind in lockdown) but as he's 18, there's not really anything I can do or say is there.
Anyone else's 18yr old ignoring restrictions? Any advice?

Police are handing out fines like sweeties right now.
Is what I'd tell mine.
No sympathy if mine get fined (they know this).

And perhaps he's planning to quarantine in his room when he gets back? Meals are £3 each if delivered.

Tell him he'll need to find somewhere to quarantine before he can come back?

Won't work if he doesn't believe you tho

People who live in my household follow lockdown restrictions. Those who won’t can pack their bags.

@lljkk That's precisely what I said to him.

He's already gone so I'm too late to threaten quarantine.

Life was so much easier when he was little and there wasn't a pandemic!

Sympathise with you OP, I have 17 year old who on the whole is following the rules but met 3-4 friends onFrid, (outside) They are so fed up but felt I still had lay down the law, however big part me was glad he rebelled and had an hour or two of “normality” It’s tough enough with teens without all this.

It is so hard on them, I agree. And there have been times when I have been less strict with him about some restrictions which is maybe why he thinks going out on the weekend was ok.

My 16 year old daughter is the same. She won’t stay in a s has gone out every night to meet her friend. She goes out fir a couple of hours so it’s not exercise. She thinks she’s invincible, has no fear about catching covid etc. I’m so worried that she is going to bring it home with her. How do you stop a 16 year old from doing this?!

szboox they absolutely think they are invincible. Teens always have and always will. At least she’s outside with her friend and where we are you are allowed to meet up with one other from another household. I fear for teenagers mental health and development, which is why I try and encourage the rules but also see why they just need to see friends and a have a bit of normal life during this crazy time.

Thinking they're invincible is all very well- the problem is some teens don't seem to give a shit that their parents aren't invincible.

Yes, there is a problem with teens' mental health, but it has got to be give and take. I lived for many years with a teen whose restricted life is never going to get any better, because it's an incurable condition: she has still had to accept that other people are vulnerable too.

For Szbooks, I'd say, sit down and negotiate how she does this. Explain about your own worries, ask her as an adult to think about how she can allay these. My 20yo dc (was 19 when pandemic started) has gone out, but only every for socially distanced walks in the park. He was happy to discuss the arrangements (each brings own drink, sit at a tree trunk 3 metres apart etc).