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13yo DD worries about weight

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Lindylu74 · 15/01/2021 20:38

My 13yo DD has recently started saying she thinks she’s ugly and fat and feels sad because of it. It’s only started in the last two weeks or so and I think it may have been prompted by spending too much time on social media in lockdown looking at people looking perfect. She is tall and slim, not fat at all. I have told her she looks beautiful and is very healthy but I really don’t know what to say for the best and not to make it worse. I told her I understand that she’s feeling upset but that I think she’s not seeing what others see, a beautiful lovely girl. She’s only just turned 13, could it be a phase? Or a warning sign that I need to do something about it? All advice gratefully received.

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JiltedJohnsJulie · 16/01/2021 09:12

Not had any experience sorry OP but for me that would be giving me alarm bells.

Is she doing anything else apart from SM? I know it's difficult right now but could you go fir a walk together each day or start the C25k together? It might give her sone time away from electronics and tine to relax with you.

Do you check her phone as well to see what she's been looking at online?

Lindylu74 · 16/01/2021 09:38

She is doing other things. We watch TV together at night and she comes out for walks with me a few times a week. We’re still quite close, She’s not yet gone into the ‘I don’t want to spend any time with you’ teen phase yet (as my older DD did for a bit). And the good thing is she talks to me about how she feels. I don’t check her phone as I never have with both DDs, I want them to feel I trust them. But I ask about what they watch and who they follow and they will often show me stuff. I’m hoping this is a bit of a phase but equally worried it’s an alarm bell ringing.

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JiltedJohnsJulie · 17/01/2021 08:35

It is difficult to tell if it's just a phase or a sign of something more serious isn't it? Ido really feel for you OP.

I've found this article from A Mighty Girl which might help Thanks

Lindylu74 · 17/01/2021 17:43

Thanks @JiltedJohnsJulie that’s really helpful. Going to take some ideas from there.

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Christmasfairy2020 · 24/01/2021 12:54

Tell her she is beautiful as she is but you will take jogging/bike riding up with her to stay fit and healthy

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