Please help.

[Stessedmumof4]

Hi. Me and my daughter who is 15 had a huge argument before Christmas leading her to run off to my mothers. Ive not seen her since. Apparently even tho I have parenteral responsibility I cannot make her come home. My mother is not been very supportive if anything shes made things worse by saying my daughter can live with her. I'm in bits here. And I dont know what to do. Any advice would be much appreciated x

Rather than trying to drag her home could you not move in with them for a while?

Allow her to stay there for a while , don't try to force her home. Say she's always welcome and it's up to her where she lives ...give it time just wait until she falls out with your mum

Teenagers are largely just meat with hormones and entirely unreasonable.

Just say she can stay providing she comes to see you X times a week. Keep the communication open.

Don't beat yourself up

I'm trying to give her space. Ive given her everything she wants clothes ect ect. This is the I've not seen her since giving birth to her . I'm frightened my mother is poisoning her against me. I was informed today by school that my mum is trying to change all her details from me to her. Ive tried to call out to my mother but shes blocked me and so has my daughter.
Ive never felt so alone and sad in my whole life

What happened to cause such a fall out?

Depends what the argument was about as well?

She was texting me at school. Asking if she could sleep at her boyfriend's I said no as she was with him all the weekend before so she starts been rude saying I'm ruining her life and been controlling all this via text while shes in class. After school she arrives home 40mims late. I shouted at her maybe I shudnt of but I did next min shes out the door running off. I I cudnt go after her as my husband was at work and I was in the middle of cooking tea for my other 2 kids. Shes gone crying to my mother' saying I never listen to her or talk to her. Which is total rubbish as when I do try and talk all she does is run off to her room .

I do all of them things actually infect she gets the most attention out of the 3. Obviously not enough. I'm only 1 person I can only do what I can.
As for my mother she never really bothered with her until recently.

On the plus side, OP, at least you know where she is and that she's safe - I know it's not much but it could be worse.

I'd just check in with her regularly and keep it breezy (and not mention coming home) and give her some space.

Yes true I know shes safe and well. We did speak for the 1st time today for over an hour. Shes very insistent that shes living with my mother. Just wish my mother was a little more supportive towards me instead of encouraging this. X

What did she do xmas day
Does she not miss her siblings
15 too young to stay at a bf house.
They think they are totally in love until the next comes along
My dd runs off down the field but comes back as no one lives near enough.

What’s the back story with your mum? She sounds like she’s pleased your dd has run to her.

She was with my mam on Christmas day. All her present are still here. Not sure if shes missing anyone of us. My mam is spoiling her rotten which is making her stay longer. Shes still refusing to see me face to face. Honestly feel I've got no support from anyone. I cant do right for wrong. If I message her all the time I'm harassing her and not giving her space but if I dont I'm seen to not care. Cant win.

My mother can be very spiteful. But shes gone to far. She should be encouraging her to come home but her saying oh yeah you can live her is not helping. She knows how heart broken I am and yet she does not care. Shes gone to far. I've said to my hubby that's it. Mother or not I'm out I dont ever want to speak to her again. I'd never ever do this to my children.