14 year old dd won’t leave room!

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She seems happy but I’m concerned.

She has Xmas dinner with us, and has played 3 family games since school broke up. Won’t watch films, go to shops, do any exercise. Nothing. Screaming with laughter all the time gaming with online friends.

How can l force her out?

Sounds like she's happy up there. Leave her relax for her holidays

My ds was absolutely exhausted at the end of the term, has done similar, either napping or gaming but seems happy.
We agreed the first half of the holidays would be relaxing and then this week we would slowly get back into a routine ready for term again. So will gently encourage the odd walk and family game but won't force it.

My dd is an older teen but also spends most of the time in her room. I'd like her to spend more time with us but she's happy and is talking to friends online so I'm mostly leaving her to get on with it.

I'm just aiming for one bit of family time a day - eating together, playing a board game or watching a family film together. I usually manage one out if the 3, occasionally 2.

Richard Osman's House of Games has proved a surprise hit, especially the distinctly average round (I put my guess into my phone, she tells me her guess, we work out our average and compare it to the contestants' average).

I feel I need a really good tv series or movie to tempt my 13 year old out of his room. When I could offer a trip to shops or fast food he was up for it! Very limited just now (tier 4)

Our internet has been down since Christmas Eve so no Netflix etc atm.

She eats dinner with us, but won’t speak🙄

Perfectly normal.

If your internet is down how is she gaming online?

She’s 14, just leave her be. I hated my family at that age I never wanted to be around them. I couldn’t be myself around them, they were boring and never really felt like they cared too much about what I wanted. I love them now though, it’s a phase, it’ll pass. Don’t try and force her to do what you demand of her though, at her age it won’t work how you want it to.

She's gaming with no internet?

I was going to suggest turning off the wifi....One holidays I locked the wifi box in the safe for several days.
We played board games and did jigsaw puzzles the kids survived 🤣.
You could try flicking the power off for a few hours and pretend a fuse has blown. That could get her out if her phone is running low on charge.

Very simple, take her off internet. I only allow son 3 hours each day. He also has to walk the dog 3 or 4 times each week and do 3 hours of revision each week over holidays. He chats to his friends and plays on chess computer online but I don't let it rule his life. He eats lunch and dinner with us, watches a movie with older brothers and bowls 🏏 balls in the garden. Everything in moderation. By allowing 24 hour internet you are enabling this extreme behaviour. Use the parental controls.

She was laughing with her friends on her phonenot on the internet.

Caringvster, we’ve had no internet since Christmas Eve! She’s been reading a lot.

We dragged her out, she didn’t want to come, it was a stressful experience....

DD 15 1/2 is the same. Her and DS 17 really made an effort to spend time with us on Christmas day but its back to bedrooms/bedsit land again since boxing day.
DD knows I love her and care about her but she is snappy, sullen, rolls her eyes if I speak to her at all. Have decided to leave her to it in the hope that she comes down of her own accord sooner rather than later. We persuaded her to come on a dog walk with us yesterday afternoon. She barely spoke even when spoken to and was so snappy, sullen and miserable I wished she’d stayed at home. But she isn’t opening her blinds so doesn’t see any day light for days and has no exercise. She last met up with her best friend for a walk on 22/12 (tier 2). We only see her when she runs out of food or drink.