Feeling really bad, have you ever accused your teen of something they didn't do..

[screaminghousewife]

A couple of years ago, ds went through a brief phase of stealing from us, we sorted it out, yadda yadda.
Today I couldn't find a tenner I left on the kitchen counter, chewed his ear off about it, for about an hour only to discover said tenner behind the digital radio, where I quite often put the odd tenner!!.
I feel really awful, tell me I'm not the only one to accuse my dc of doing something that they haven't?

I thought my dd was bullying a friend - then discovered she was trying to remove herself from a situation where she was being bullied. (By handing the other girl an anonymous letter!)

Ohh, was your dd ok after?
I feel really bad about mine and ds seems to have forgotten about it now.

She tells me gleeful stories about the other girl who seems to have 'issues' around how to make and keep friends. I kindly say that I do feel sorry for her lack of skills in that direction (while blaming the other girl's mum who misled me!) It was on the minor scale of bullying, but could have escalated. She seems OK, dealing with it in a 'moral high horse'way.

We've probably all done this and felt bad about it. As the stealing phase was 2 years ago, and if your DS has not betrayed your trust since, explain to him that you made a mistake - adults do - and you were just remembering the phase a couple of years ago. Emphasise that he's done nothing since to make you suspect him, you do trust him, you were wrong, sorry. I have a very difficult DS, and do find we immediately blame him for things, and feel awful when it turns out it actually wasn't him. Doesn't do anything for his self-esteem, so we are compounding the problem. Handle it, then try not to dwell on it, but do know how you are feeling.